Don't Think We Need Feminism Now? Just Watch (VIDEOS)

feminismThere are women against feminism. I am not one of those women. I have experienced misogyny firsthand. Countless times. I've been witness to prejudice against women in several forms. I would love to live in a world where this wasn't an issue -- for me, for my daughter, for my sister and friends, for all women -- but as the saying goes, we still have a long way to go. Even now.

Still, there is a movement called Women Against Feminism, and while I don't agree with all they have to say, I do think their core message is similar. If only we could work together on that. Women are people, just like men, and we deserve equal rights and treatment. But the movement is divisive, and that is not helpful. If there is any doubt feminism -- in its true form -- is needed, watch this video called "If Men Were Women."

Seeing the men on the magazine covers made me laugh, but the end ... that boy looking at the images of the Presidents and seeing all women, that is the kind of thing that resonates with a child. In reality, that child is a girl who grows up with the notion that only men are Presidents. Maybe that will propel a woman to be part of the change. Maybe, though, that will give a woman the feeling that she isn't good enough.

There are always going to be differences between men and women -- between one woman and another woman. We are people, individuals, with different likes and preferences and styles and behaviors. It's not those differences that are the issue. It's the injustices because of our differences.

Women are paid less than men. Women are harassed on a daily basis all over the world simply because they are women. Women are blamed for being raped because of how they acted or how they dressed. There are people in our society -- our supposedly civilized society -- that excuse a man for sexually assaulting a woman because "she was asking for it." They somehow believe that a man's violent actions are acceptable in this case -- that they cannot be controlled, and it's somehow okay for a man to be a wild animal without morals and commit crimes against women because a woman did something, anything, they felt made them "deserve" it. This is why we need feminism -- in all its definitions. We need to bond together as women, as people -- we need to all realize that just because these injustices aren't against us personally, they are happening to women all the time.

This French short "Oppressed Majority" by director Eléonore Pourriat is even more powerful. Sometimes we need to see things as the direct opposite in order to understand the reality.

This is why we need feminism. Feminism means different things to different people, but we have to take it to the core meaning -- being a feminist means advocating women's rights on the grounds of political, social, and economic equality to men. Anyone can be a feminist. I wish everyone was.

Do you identify yourself as a feminist? Why or why not? What do you think of these videos?


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Eva8686 Eva8686

If you believe that every man/women/child should have basic human rights, then you are a feminist. Some people don't realize that in order to bring that equality, it is mainly women and girls who need support and who are in this struggle to reach that equality, which is mainly oppressed by patriarchy. That is what feminism is, I do hope for a day when feminism will be a thing of the past, the fight is not over, there is oppression on so many levels around the world. 

the4m... the4mutts

No. There is a difference between "feminism" and "humanitarian"

I believe in HUMAN rights. Not women's rights. If women want to be equal, they need to stop wanting special treatment. They want to work in the oilfields, but can't handle the "crass" talk there, and therefore need special "sensitivity" rules, or they sue.

That isn't right. That is special treatment.

I believe all humans, all races, all sexualities, should be equal. Should expect equal treatment, and protections under laws.

If you think that is the same as feminism, or affirmative action, then you're deluded. Feminism and affirmative action seek to force employers (for example) to have a minimum of "X-amount" of women/minorities working in large corporations. Even if a more qualified white man applied for the same job.

Special treatment is not equality.

nonmember avatar d.j.

arguing for equal rights and treatment then every week crying because a woman had to stand up on the train because noone would give up their seat..

AliPa... AliParker

I agree with what 4mutts said. I would never consider myself a feminist. Women cry and scream to be equal but then want special advantages around every corner. Make up your mind. Most feminists and women don't want to be equal, they want to be superior. That's not right. And just the same as women might not get the same pay or treated fairly when it comes to sexual harassment, men get that all the time as well in different forms. Hello child support abuse even if you're a decent man but some woman wanted to mess with you, don't ever go to the police if you're wife is abusing you, you'll only get laughed out of the building. There is inequality everywhere.

nonmember avatar sarah

1,375 executed in the United States since 1976..14 were women..equal rights?

nonmember avatar me

I see what you're saying, mutts, but I think your example is poorly thought out. Women want to work in oil fields, and as such should be willing to be subjected to sexually lewd and degrading commentary because...why now? Just because things have always been a certain way, doesn't mean that is the right way. Many of these "special advantages" women are asking for are attempts at righting a systemic wrong.

nonmember avatar whoa

Ignorance is bliss and it is truly saddening to see such uneducated and ignorant critiques on the subject. Specially because everyone on this forum is wrong. As if the video didn't make it 100 percent clear then I don't know what it would take to make you understand that women aren't looking for superiority, it's not about the a man not giving up his seat for a woman on the bus but about all the men that sexually harrass women on packed trains simply because they want to or feel entitled to it. I was 12 when a man grabbed my ass as I was walking down a crowded street with my family. I stick up for little girls like me because no child or woman deserves to be harassed in any way, specially when she's minding her own business. Dare I also mention the mass shootin in Santa Barbara...a kid who felt entitled to sex and looked at women like objects so much so that he went on a killing spree over it and not to mention all the sick picks sticking up for this kid and justifying his actions? That's white male privilege. If it would have been a woman it would have been blamed on PMS. You see the pattern here? You all need help and a class on feminism. I feel genuinely sorry for your children.

nonmember avatar A

Feminism is the celebration of every persons humanity. Of course we need feminism." When you grow up as a girl, the world tells you the things you should be: emotional, loving, beautiful, wanted. And when you are those things, the world tells you they are inferior: illogical, weak, vain, empty."
-Stevie Nicks

nonmember avatar PayAttention

"Feminism is hated because women are hated. Anti-feminism is a direct expression of misogyny;it is the political defense of women hating" -Andrea Dworkin

nonmember avatar OpenMinds

We need feminism because men don't text each other to make sure they've arrived safely. We need feminism because when off to college boys are buying condoms and girls are buying pepper spray.we Ned feminism because rape victims are still being asked "what were you wearing."

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