Mother Beats Daughter & Posts Video to Facebook (GRAPHIC)

trinidadian mom beats daughterWhen a 12-year-old girl posted racy pictures of herself on Facebook, her mom Helen Bartlett didn't like it very much. In fact, Bartlett didn't like it so much that she beat the girl with a strap. But she didn't just give her daughter a whipping, the mom videotaped the beating, which lasted about 6 minutes. And then she put it on Facebook.

The video has not only gone viral, it's sparked a debate about corporal punishment. Many viewers of the video support the mom's actions, while others are appalled and consider the beating child abuse.

But during a radio interview, Bartlett said she has no regrets and is "prepared to go to jail" to set her "problem child" on the right path.

She says she beat her daughter because she had posted photos of herself in underwear on Facebook and was sexting with a boy. She wants to keep her daughter on the straight and narrow, prevent her from getting pregnant, and keep her off the streets.

WARNING: This GRAPHIC VIDEO, a shorter version of the original, is still difficult to watch.


For the full version of the video, click: Trinidadian mother beating her daughter.

A few days after this video went up, the 12-year-old girl and her older sister put up their own video, in which they defended their mom. They said she was a good mother who just wanted to protect them. The 12-year-old said she knows her mother loves her and she reassured viewers that has no intention of killing herself.

She hasn't, however, been back to school since the video of the beating went viral and her mom says she fears being made fun of and getting bullied. (Better to stay home and be "safe" with mom??)

In her video, the 12-year-old said, "I am very sorry for bringing shame on you and the family. I know you love me dearly. And I love you dearly, too." She then urged other kids her age to watch the video of her being beaten so they could "learn" from it.

What do you think about this mom posting a video of her beating her daughter on Facebook?

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abra819 abra819

yeah.....there's so much I can say, but my three year old got me up at five and i'm exhausted. I will say however, to anyone that defend's this mom, I imagine they had the same upbringing and that's really sad. Off to have some creamer with my coffee ;)

Austi... Austinsmommy12

I would 1) take away her ability to "sext". She's 12. No phone is necessary because she [should] be supervised at all times by a parent or adult at least, when she's not in school. 2) take away her FB. Abuse the privilege and it's gone. No camera phone also = no way to upload pics. 3) take away the internet entirely if the two above didn't work. I would strip the kid's room to a bare mattress and no door if she still insisted on being a teenage pregnancy spokesperson at 12. I'm an advocate of spanking, but there are MUCH more effective punishments for a preteen like that. Beating is never an option.

the4m... the4mutts

At age 12, there are VERY few things that it would be justifiable to spank for. THIS is one of them. I would spank my kid, along with taking away all technology.

That being said... 6minutes? Of hitting with a strap? That doesn't sound like spanking, even for an older, bigger girl to me. And posting it online for the world to see? That's terrible. This takes the "shaming" trend of parenting to a new, unacceptable level.

Julia Saenz

God I wish I would have had this kind of technology when I was  younger to prove bad parenting.

youth... youthfulsoul

Corporal punishment is not only NOT effective, as studies have shown this, but I can tell you from personal experience it leads to a life of emotional trauma. Don't do that to your children.

nonmember avatar MamaKay

If she was so worried about her daughter being bullied and made fun of for the video, why did she post it to Facebook for everyone to see???

What a whack job!

Regardless of anyone's stance on spanking, this whole "punishment" is unacceptable.

Bruic... Bruickson

This is just cruel. I honestly don't know what I would have done in this mother's situation since my dd isn't anywhere near the preteen age but beating the piss out of my daughter with a strap wouldn't have been it. I believe in spanking but this crosses the line. I want my daughter to respect me, not fear me. I'm just hoping the parenting that I am doing now will prevent my daughter from those types of behavior in the future so I won't have to find out how to handle a situation like that.

4cadi... 4cadillac

I say gud job mom!

nonmember avatar msmi 26

My mom did the same to me if I got out of line. I turned out fine. I socially drink, never did drugs, never saw the inside of a jail cell. I give thanks to my mother for keeping me on the straight and narrow. Btw, I'm not emotionally screwed up either.

Charl... Charlyla2

Holy crap, this is completely ridiculous. Take her phone! Take her privacy! Hell, take her freedom for a month but beating her? No.

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