Troubled Grandmother Who Shot 2 Grandchildren Left Behind Horrific 'Reason'

This story breaks my heart for so many reasons. First, you have two young children taken from this life in a most horrific way -- murdered by their very own grandmother. Most of us think of nothing but affection when we think of grandma. Grandma is the person you run to for unconditional love when you're not feeling it from your parents. So the very idea that Debra Denison would shoot her own young grandsons is unfathomable. She then killed herself. Enough horror for any family. But it gets even worse.

Denison reportedly left a note explaining her horrific motive for the crime, a note which has just come to light. In it, she reportedly told the children's parents that they didn't deserve children and she wanted them to feel the loss of a child. Ugh, just unfathomable. Not only did Denison kill her 2-year-old and 6-month-old grandsons, but she did it for a heinous reason like this -- purely to hurt the children's parents.

Of course, Denison had a long history of mental illness, including reportedly having multiple personality disorder. This can make you say all kinds of things. And do all kinds of things. It's utterly devastating that her mental illness got her to this point.

Despite the fact that Denison had a very rocky history with her daughter, Brenda Perry, and she had tried to kill herself six times before, it is very hard to give up on your mother. And like most mothers Brenda did not want to.

Reportedly, they had recently patched things up, and were planning on counseling together. Denison had also been added to an approved list of people who could pick up the kids from school. She was supposed to only be able to do this with a relative, but she reportedly came alone to the daycare where the kids were and drove them to their doom.

What an awful feeling it must be for Brenda that she tried to do the right thing and trust her mom and bring her mom into the family fold, only to be horrifically betrayed. Denison's husband said he "never imagined" she could do something like this.

It's very difficult to completely shut relatives with mental illness out of your life -- often they act perfectly normal and loving. And you want to help them. They're family after all. So when something like this happens, it's just tragic all around.

Have you ever dealt with a mentally ill family member?

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I don't know why the school allowed this woman to pick up the kids when she should have been with another supervised person, and I definitely would never have let a woman who had tried to kill herself several times, had personality issues and a liar to boot (she told her son that he was a product of rape when she didn't want his bio dad to see him)be near my kids, mother or not. I wonder if the school will be brought into this and if this marriage will survive.

fudgy... fudgybuddymom

I have dealt with a mom with bipolar disorder & fortunately for us and as tough as that disease is on family,she wasn't tortured with homicidal thoughts such as this to cause the deaths of such innocent children! My heart goes out to the parents of these two beautiful children & to the husband of Ms.Denison.

Morri... MorriganzMommy

My heart goes out to this family. But this is exactly why i argue with people about my choice to cut off my inlaws. This grandmother may have never shown aggression or done anything towards these children in the past. Her reason for killing these babies where purely to hurt the parents. Aggression towards the parent can be dangerous to the children. Sometimes a cut off is the only way to protect yourself and your children. My inlaws dont understand consequences for their actions and have done things that have caused harm to my oldest child and people stil believe im wrong. Im sorry that this family lost these small little children in such a tragic way.


I cannot understand why the grandmother had the children in her care when she clearly had severe mental health problems. There are people involved who should of acted more responsible especially where the children are concerned. Such a tragic loss.

nonmember avatar Adriennesmom

My mother's bipolar schizophrenic cousin threatened to knock my baby out of me because I didn't answer his question one morning when I wasn't feeling like being bothered at all. My mother promptly called the police since he self medicates and has a history of violence, mostly fights with family members who tried to get him to take his meds.

missf... missfanzi

Apparently, mending the family was not the right decision.  It is a sad truth that family or not, there are people who should not have access to children.  Sometimes the right decision is the one that some people will look down on.  My condolences to the family.

Megan Harvey

My ex's half-siblings (from his dad's first marriage) grew up with a psychopathic mother. She was paranoid schizophrenic and, according to the horror stories I've heard from various relatives, used to do things like put cigarettes out on her kids and beat them with broken-off table legs. She also used to tell them crazy religious-themed things like "the devil" had possessed them and was going to kill them. My ex's dad had divorced her when the kids were still toddlers and had moved kind of far away for a job, so he didn't realize how bad his ex-wife had gotten until a few years later. When he did, he immediately took full custody of the kids (son and daughter) and got them into counseling. The kids still (somehow) had court-ordered UNsupervised visitation with their mother, despite all that she had done to them. Too many people, including judges, place a bit too much emphasis on family ties. Yes, family is important, but if they're harming/endangering others then the person being harmed/endangered has to come first. It's terribly sad for these babies that their mother made the (understandable) mistake of trying to allow Grandma back into their lives.

nonmember avatar Bethany

As a mom to be with bipolar disorder, people who do not have mental illness can be judgy or downright mean. I am in therapy to cope with the additional stress of not only being a wife but a mother. I am going back on my medication as soon as she is born so I can have the extra stability I need. I also have a wonderful support system that if I know it's a bad day someone can help me. Not everyone that is mentally ill goes out and commits horrible crimes. Most of us are trying to do everything we can to live a normal life, like myself.

faith... faith2009123

Why in the hell were they left with her?? Pure stupidity! Bless those sweet babies! Omg!!

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