Father of Sandy Hook Shooter Breaks His Silence About His Son (VIDEO)

sandy hookIt's been over a year since the tragedy, and we're finally hearing from the one remaining parent of Sandy Hook Elementary shooter Adam Lanza. In his first interview,  Peter Lanza revealed to the New Yorker what he really knew about his son's condition. He says he wishes his son had "never been born." And he says he knows his son would have killed him as well. "With hindsight, I know Adam would have killed me in a heartbeat, if he'd had the chance."

Lanza hadn't seen his son for two years at the time of the shooting. He doesn't believe there's any way he could have predicted his son's actions. But he is still tormented by what his son did. "You can't get any more evil," he says. "How much do I beat up on myself about the fact that he's my son? A lot."

It was "crystal clear" that something was deeply wrong with Adam by the time he was in middle school, Peter Lanza says. Was it Aspergers that caused Adam to commit that violence? Lanza doesn't think so. "Asperger's makes people unusual, but it doesn't make people like this." In the article, Adam Lanza's history with mental illness and treatment is described. He was on psychotropic drugs for a while, but stopped taking them because of side effects.

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Lanza keeps boxes of stuffed animals and letters sent to him after the shooting in his attic. He's met with two of the victims' families. "It's gut-wrenching. A victim's family member told me that they forgave Adam after we spent three hours talking. I didn't even know how to respond. A person that lost their son, their only son."

It's been over a year since the shootings. Why is Lanza finally talking? "I want people to be afraid of the fact that this could happen to them,” he said. These are haunting words. Maybe Lanza is hoping his interview will force people to examine their own families, and not ignore any signs that their own children could be dangerous. Will they, though?

It must take a huge leap for any parent to see the potential for violence in their disturbed child. The interview doesn't illuminate the mystery of why Adam did it. It's just one more piece in a complex puzzle. 

At any rate, we do have a little more insight now into Adam Lanza's last years, and about how much his parents really knew about his condition. I can't imagine how awful it must feel to be the parent of someone who caused so many people so much pain. 

Can you imagine how it must feel like to be Peter Lanza?


Image via  Tim Clayton/TIM CLAYTON/Corbis

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nonmember avatar Susan c

Are you freakin kidding me?!?! A parent goes on National TV saying he wishes his son was never born? He is getting support? What is wrong with you, America? The guy found out his son was "unusual, " whatever relationship he had with his wife and son crumbled and he did not do anything further for his son. He hadn't spoken to Adam in two years! Is that what you people think is good parenting? I wish Adam had shot him! What a worthless father. 85-90 percent of Adam's pain and anger was because his dad abandon him because he was somehow broken. He doesn't deserve support, My God! He should have been an involved father doing everything he could for his son. Instead, he did nothing! I am furious that anyone would support a man who did nothing for a boy he called his son (whom he abandon), but then turns on him the first chance he got. The x wife isnt here to tell her side, how convenient for him. I hope he feels he is responsible because he really was a huge part of the problem! Let that be a lesson to the rest of you who call yourselves a father or mother. Unless you are actively contributing to your kids' lives and well-being, you don't deserve the title and you definitely do not get to complain when things go wrong. You are a large part of a problem!

Raquelle Kern

Susan C, I couldn't of written a better comment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ninag... ninag1980


the comment above is so over the top it makes me chuckle.

just plain silly to blame a parent.  You can have the best support from your parents and still do something like this.  In fact, isnt' there another article on the stir today about a rich kid who killed both his "involved" parents.  Adam chose not to take his medicine controlling his disease.  Whats his dad supposed to do?  Strap him down and shove it dow his throat?  Maybe it was Adam who chose not to speak to his father for 2 years.....

Kelly Walters

Susan, I agree with you to an extent.  Where was he all those years?  Did the mother freeze him out or did he just walk away because it was easier.

nonmember avatar LCC

The New Yorker article explains a lot about Adam. He was unable to feel emotions. He only disliked or liked things, based on the degree of discomfort they caused him. For example, he disliked his parents (they "irritated" him), but he "liked being a little kid." Getting older was very painful to him because he was highly intelligent and not insane and therefore he knew his challenges were only making it harder and harder for him to manage life. He withdrew from people to hide his inability to function normally, and lived with increasing despair, spending many days crying. IMHO, it's no coincidence that when he decided to strike out at the society that he could not manage to function in, he targeted the kids at the school he attended when he was last able to like himself and last able to cope. It's like they were symbols to him of his younger self and he wanted to annihilate or erase them. He wanted things and people that caused him discomfort to "not exist."

Paula Fritchman

With a father like this.....and health issues on top of it? And we wonder why this child "snapped" His father hadnt seen him in 2 years, so his whole "I wish he was never born" was likely no secret for the child. The best thing this man can do is withdraw from society. We dont need "parents" like him

Alynn74 Alynn74

I have to agree with everyone else. He knew there was a problem and he walked away and left his ex-wife and son to deal with it the best he could. Although I don't hold him responsible for what Lanza did-that's all on him-I do understand that his father's indifference and lack of love helped create the monster he was.

  No matter what my kid did-no matter what evil, I wouldn't be able to utter the words that they should have never been born.

nonmember avatar Kristi

I guess I took his comment differently. As in I wish he was never born thus saving those 27 lives??? Either way it's still a very sad and difficult situation. Ugh.

Heather Gibbs

SHE bears responsibility?? What about him?? It is stated that SHE took him for counseling and meds while HE walked away. SHE took the responsibility for the child THEY created and when something happens it becomes all HER? HE clearly didn't give a shit about his kid and walked away, I wonder just how much THAT contributed to Adam's state of mind/deterioration?? 

He doesn't get to walk away then place all of the blame on the mother because he wasn't present for two years. He is JUST as responsible and he certainly is more despicable than the one parent that stuck with the kid trying to help. 
He never should have been born? That is awful, it doesn't matter his context, the fact that he can speak about his own child like that shows just how little he cared for his child. He was "broken" and the father has no problems tossing him away. A loving parent would be in shambles, the horrific crime your child committed would be so devastating but so would the love you feel for your child regardless. There would be a lot of grief for all fo the victims as well as for your child. 
With his lack of love, sincerity, acceptance, involvement and a complete lack of feelings for Adam makes me wonder just how much his father abandoning him played a part in his unhinging? 

Jacee... Jacee2348

I am wondering if any of you read the link in pink in this very article - an 8 pg story regarding Adam Lanza.  Adam Lanza (per emails from Adam's mom to his dad) is the one who cut off communication with his dad at the age of 18, a legal adult.  While I'm sure that both Adam's dad & mom could've done many things differently, the sad truth is that Adam alone is responsible for his actions.  They were calculated & planned to the point of him erasing things from hard drives and laying out his murderous plans on his bed prior to shooting of his mom & the children & staff of Sandy Hook.  He knew right from wrong.  I do have some sympathy for BOTH of his parents after reading the entire article linked - and I do commend the dad for opening up & making some kind of effort to prevent this type of tragedy from happening again.  Does that mean I think he gets off "scot-free"?  No.  He'll live with the guilt of "what-if" his whole life.  But keep in mind, Adam's mom was in complete control in the end and even prior to him turning 18 she ceased taking him to any kind of therapy.  I believe both parents are equally responsible in their lack of seeking further treatment, even having him involuntarily committed. 

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