A married math teacher is headed to jail. Her crime? Having sex with a 14-year-old student. Unfortunately, we seem to be seeing more and more of these cases in America. But have you ever seen a YouTube apology from one of the teachers? There's a first for everything.
Convicted of engaging in a sexual act or deviant sexual intercourse with a student under 19 years old, former teacher Alicia Gray was sentenced last week to five years in prison -- although she'll only have to serve six months, with five years probation. But before being hauled off to jail, Gray sat down to make a sniffly apology that she just happened to record and post on YouTube for maximum effect. Take a look:
OK, so she sniffles. And she has Jesus (and a pastor!) on her side.
But does a grown woman who had sex with a child really get off this easily? Does telling a kid, hey, it's OK I sexually abused you because God makes "beauty from ashes" really count as remorse? Words like that border on a "I'm sorry, but you should really be grateful" kind of apology, and those are the worst kind.
They come from people who aren't apologizing so much as they are digging at the person whom they hurt for actually FEELING hurt. They're telling the person how to feel when that's not their place.
Gray spends a lot of time talking about God in this apology. A LOT. But it seems very me-centric. She's returned to His love. She's got her church around her. She's using Him to clean up her life.
An apology expert was recently asked to weigh in on Governor Chris Christie's bridgegate apology, and she pointed out that a good apology is "not about you"!
What about this poor kid?
What about his life?
What does her religious rebirth mean for the CHILD?
Gray might be truly apologetic, but these are the kind of apologies that make it hard to tell if the person is sorry for what they did or just sorry that their life got up-ended. She's facing jail time. She will never teach again. Her whole community knows she's a pedophile.
Of course she's "sorry." Her life is a mess, and that just plain sucks for her.
Maybe it would be easier to take her apology seriously if she weren't about to go to jail. Timing, as they say, is everything.
Or maybe it wouldn't. Because an apology all about how she's found the Lord given any other time would still be an apology about Alicia Gray, not the child she hurt.
What do you think of this teacher's apology and the timing?
Image via Mobile County Metro Jail