Lonely 85-Year-Old Man Places Ad Hoping to Spend Christmas With Someone

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joy christmasNo matter how much money you have to spend or how many gifts are under your tree, Christmas really is all about love and family. (Hey, that rhymed. Beautiful sentiment, isn't it. Like a song.) Some people don't even have that. No family. No loved ones to have some yuletide festivities. Sad stuff. Welcome to 85-year-old James Gray's life. He's lonely and has spent the last 10 Christmases eating smoked salmon all by himself. And the last time he had a guest on Christmas, it was his accountant, about a decade ago.

This year the retired butler from South London decided to do something about it. He placed a newspaper ad looking for people to spend Christmas with him.

Gray said, "I'm used to the loneliness but I don't want it to be the same this year. I think there must be quite a few lonely people around and I am on my own, so it would make sense, I think, if someone came here for Christmas lunch."

Grandpa Gray! My heartstrings are Christmas caroling just for you right now! Come to my house!!!

The ad he placed was in the Irish Post and in it he described how he was looking for other retirees who didn't have family who wanted to join him for lunch at a hotel on Christmas. How sweet is that? Nothing creepy. No funny business. A personal ad in a real newspaper, too! The perfect spot for the audience he wants to reach. You know, opposed to, say, Facebook.

At first Gray had one woman respond but she changed her mind. And just when nearly all hope was lost, Grey started getting Christmas cards from strangers all over the world! People were even inviting Gray to go all the way to New York City to spend Christmas with them. Some even sent him gifts including a Quality Street toffee penny and a bottle of whiskey. See, people? We can have a little faith in humanity. There is such a thing as getting in the Christmas spirit! 'Tis the season! Deck the halls! Insert whatever other jolly great joy quips you know here. Gray, of course, got very emotional by all of this. "It is so touching to me, after all these years alone, to see this response from people. I’m so appreciative of the offers. I should have done this years ago." 

I'm so glad he finally did it now. One of those who reached out to Gray was Jake Morrison, a 21-year-old from Liverpool who organizes lunches for people just like Gray -- alone and with no family for the holidays. Morrison, who is something like a real Saint Nick, is providing travel to and from London for Gray as well as a hotel room so he can attend.

I feel so Christmas spirit-y now! Happy. And joyful. And optimistic. I hope Mr. Gray has the best Christmas ever. And an incredible 2014 with hopefully some new friends.

If you are interested in sending him some of your holiday cheer, you can mail cards to:

‘Mr James Gray’ c/o The Irish Post, Suite A, 1 Lindsey Street

Smithfield, London EC1A 9HP, UK

What do you think of James Gray's decision to place the ad?


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theyc... theycallmemom4

How sweet and sad at the same time. I hope he finds some new friends from this and doesn't have to spend Christmas alone anymore.

nonmember avatar Ndapandula

Am looking someone who want to be my friend from america. I want to travel to the united state of america. One of the goods days.

GypsiSky GypsiSky

It's wonderful to know he won't be alone this Christmas.

adopt... adoption2013

I think that loneliness affects people of all ages.   I'm glad he won't be alone.

adopt... adoption2013

My. Family is enormous so although they can be annoying I'm grateful that this will never be an issue for me.

Stephanie Rodriguez

I know how Mr Gray feels. I do have family and we spend it together every year one way or another. But I don't have a special person in my life for the last ten years. Though it has been by choice this year is different. This year I would love to have someone to share the holiday and bring in the New Year. So Mr Gray May God bring you that special great person to bring your heart warmth and love.

Pat Boyke

For People who r alone on the holidays: Churches usually provide Holiday meal so they don't have to be alone- Welcome them into your life so u don't have to be alone

nonmember avatar sam

How do u write his address on a envelope??

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