If you've ever sent a text message to the absolute wrong person, this story might resonate with you. Married mother of two and British police officer Gail Crocker killed herself after tapping out a sexy text message to her lover -- but sending it to her husband by mistake. The message, which reportedly read, "Thank you for a wonderful evening. Only wish we could do this more often," was meant for Crocker's colleague, with whom she'd shared a one-night stand, but went to her husband of 30 years instead. The next day, Gail Crocker took an overdose of pills, wrote out two suicide notes, and ended it all.
After Gail's husband received the message, he confronted her and they argued. She swore it was a "one-off" and that she had never cheated on him before. Understandably still angry, Mr. Crocker went to bed without offering his forgiveness or them settling the issue.
The next morning, they reportedly began arguing again, and Mr. Crocker threw his phone in anger. When he went to the store to get a replacement phone, Gail got in her car, drove to a nearby village, and downed a bottle of pills. She left notes for her grown daughters and her husband.
While I don't think anyone condones cheating, it is certainly not worth taking your life over. I can only imagine the gut-wrenching guilt that Gail must have felt in order to go this far, to feel that there was no way out, or that she would never be forgiven.
Gail and her husband had been married for 30 years, since they were teenagers. That's no excusing stepping out; however, one night can't outweigh 30 years of love and loyalty. Her husband says:
She was my life. We had plans. Nothing was worth her taking her life. I'm lost without her.
And now he will feel terrible that he didn't immediately offer forgiveness -- which he did not have to do. He had every right to be angry and think about things for awhile.
People make mistakes. I know there was much, much more to Gail Crocker's life than just this. She was a police officer. A mom. A wife. A friend, daughter, protector of the public. She deserves to be remembered for much more than this one little blip in her life.
I only wish she had realized that.
Have you ever sent a text message to the wrong person?
Please call 1-800-273-8255 to reach the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline in case you are worried about yourself or someone else.
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