Wife Retaliates After Quadriplegic Husband Gets Nasty Note on His Car for Parking in Handicap Spot

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note left on quadruplegic carKindness seems to be as dead as Elvis these days. And people are getting themselves all up in a tizzy for no good reason. Perhaps the state of the world has gotten people a little more loopy than usual, but this story of a person leaving a passive aggressive note on a quadriplegic man's car makes me worry for humankind.

Quadriplegic Matt Milstead, 36, parked in a handicap spot at the YMCA in Grand Rapids, Michigan, before heading inside to play a game of wheelchair rugby. His handicap pass was clearly visible in the window of his BMW. But someone saw his car, made an assumption, and left this nasty note

I would love to have seen the steam rising from the head of the person writing: "I would love to see your wheelchair! I'm guessing male 25-35 years professional who thinks he's got the world by the ass. But I could be wrong." 

Okay, so this anonymous passive aggressive rude person did say "But I could be wrong" but seriously? Why, why why? Why would anyone take the time to do this even if someone did park their car in a handicap spot and they weren't handicapped? We don't all have to play police. And did this person stop to think, truly think, how they would make this person feel from reading the note? Feelings, people. Don't we care about anyone's feelings anymore? We can't make assumptions.

Milstead isn't so fazed by it, though he said he was confused and surprised. His wife Leslie, however, is furious and wrote a response to the note writer on her Facebook page.

You were so close on the age, he's actually 36, and he is a professional with a full time job. He is also a quadriplegic, which for him means that he can no longer move his legs or his fingers in either hand. He has no grip. So, if you are willing to give him your functioning hands and legs for the rest of your life in exchange for his 6-year-old BMW and handicapped parking pass, I'm sure he'd make that trade. 

Leslie also added that her husband "just shakes his head at people like you who leave notes on his car. Trust me, you aren't the first. Ignorance is everywhere."

It sure is. And it sure is sad.

Have you ever seen a car parked in a handicap and thought it had no right to be there? What do you think of this story?


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Jespren Jespren

Only when they didn't have a pass! If you park in a handicapped space without a placard or liscence plate you deserve all the nasty notes, tickets, or tow-aways you get!

amber... ambertastic

Tickets if unmarked. Nasty notes no- especially is no forwarding info is left for a rebuttle. Then again Hus vehicle was marked. Who cares he has fancy car??? People in wheel chairs don't desire fancy crap??? I am sorry but really this kind of thing is pretty ridiculous.

Ashley Littlejohn

I don't assume anything. I know plenty of people with handicap tags that don't have a physical disability. My husband was offered one for his PTSD. We got a nasty note on our car one day when we parked in the pregnant/new mom parking. All the person saw was the car seats for our 2 year old and 5 year old in an empty car. 

steph... steph0420

Unfortunately 90% of people I see in handicapped spots, aren't. They whip in the spots, fish around the glove box for their pass to hang, and when they get out, its usually just some fatass who doesn't want to hobble across the parking lot.


Was it ok for that person to make that assumption and leave an ignorant note? No. But I understand why he did

Tracys2 Tracys2

Since I am not handicapped, I don't really pay attention to who parks there- it's none of my business, and I don't know what their handicaps are. If there were an issue with cheating, that would be an issue for police, I'd imagine, to check that passes used were valid. How could any of us know if someone had a disability, just by looking at them? Are we neurologists and can recognise signs of MS or other diseases that make walking difficult? I went to a zoo with a guy who had MS and didn't know it until he suddenly collapsed.


Spewing hatred will hopefully never be my issue.


If people want more regulation of disabled parking passes, then they need to pay for more regulators to verify the validity of passes, and that the correct people are using them, and have bigger government. Most people don't seem to want that.

CLM3345 CLM3345

I would only get upset if I saw a healthy person park in a handicapped spot, then see a handicapped person have to park further away. I always park towards the back/farther away from the door. I have two good legs, so I see no point in taking up close spots. so no, this person should not have left a note for any reason. What happened to minding your own business and shrugging things off that don't directly involve you?

Becks... Beckster76

I had a handicap parking pass years ago - not for me but because of my handicapped daughter. I would occaisionally get grief from people who saw me use a handicap spot and would jump to conclusions before seeing her

jkp-buff jkp-buff

This happened to a friend of mine. His wife had surgery with leg casts and crutches and couldn't walk very far so they had a temporary handicapped pass. They went in together and she got one of those wheelchairs in the store, and he went back to the car to get something. Some lady started yelling at him in the parking lot for parking in a handicapped spot and made a huge scene. So he followed her in the store, grabbed his wife in the wheelchair and followed this rude lady around the store demanding that she apologize and loudly telling everyone what she had done until she, completely redfaced, finally muttered out an embarrassed apology. But I bet she minds her own business from then on.

ktobin2 ktobin2

Some guy made a nasty comment to my mom while she was getting out of her car, parked in a handicap space. She just ignored him, opened the back and got the weelchair out for my aunt who was just in a car crash. He was really embarrassed.

Denise Rae

I have seen many abuse this, using the pass when the person the placard was issued to absent. I'm disabled myself and have no cushion between the bones in both knees. Here is CA if you see a car parked in a handicapped spot without the placard, take a pic of the license plate and forward it to the DMV. I'll admit I often wonder who they classify as disabled when I see people park in the handicapp looking healthy walking around a mall. Lordy I wish I could walk around the mall or Disneyland for that matter.

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