Dr. Phil Tweets Offensive Rape Question That Should Appall Us All

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Dr. PhilDr. Phil is a person that many go to for advice and guidance on their lives, but it seems that he is the one who needed guidance recently when he tweeted a question about rape that was so offensive to his many followers, he was forced to delete it. Sadly for him, the damage was done.

Across the web, many people were up in arms, protesting the tweet and tweeting in anger.

Just what was so bad? Well, see for yourself.

By posing the question, Dr. Phil implies that there is at least some possibility that there IS a question. SO to make it clear: No. It's never OK to have sex with a woman or a girl when she is drunk or sleeping or impaired in any way. That's just a fact.

If a girl is drunk, is it OK to have sex with her? Reply yes or no to @drphil #teensaccused.

Now we all know that celebrities like Dr. Phil are not ACTUALLY manning their twitter accounts. But someone is. And someone's head should probably roll for this. After all, this wasn't the tweet of a person who cares about others and isn't that what Dr. Phil purports to be? Sure, he's all tough love, but does he really condone rape?

Why is this question still being asked? It's 2013. We have seen AWFUL cases like Steubenville among many others like it. We have seen girls bullied online to the point of suicide all because of things that happened when they were drunk. It's called rape. We should be teaching our boys as well as our girls that it's NEVER OK to have sex with someone who is too impaired to consent. Period.

Dr. Phil is apparently a role model for someone (who?!), and as such, he shouldn't be walking this line. Sure, the question could just be a feeler. Whoever sent it could have been trying to take the general temperature and not implying that a "yes" answer was acceptable.

But it's our job as adults to make sure that everyone understands that having sex with a drunken girl isn't a question. It's just a no. Always. Someone in the public eye should be especially mindful of this.

Truly, it's appalling. Let's hope Dr. Phil and whoever tweets for him has learned from this. This won't be tolerated.

Do you think Dr. Phil's tweet was out of line?


Image via Dr. Phil Show

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SuzyB... SuzyBarno

No. It seems like he is looking to get others opinions. Because obviously there is a little bit of a debate about this. Boys are being accused and these girls are playing victims and sometimes it's the other way around. Sad but it happens.

tessi... tessiekat

I hope you realize that he did release a statement shortly after saying that it was a poll question and he will be addressing the topic on his show because of the recent cases...

"This tweet was intended to evoke discussion leading into a very serious show topic. It was not intended to be taken lightly. It's based upon a recent news story, hence the #teensaccused label."


amber... amberdotsmom

The only thing we should be up in arms about is anyone who seriously (not trolling) answers Yes.  I don't see anything wrong with Dr. Phil posing this question to include in the show as poll data (such as revealing that 5% of people responded yes and that's bad) or to even get some of these people to explain why they feel that way in this day and age.  If you don't ask the question you'll never know how many creeps are still out there - he should be asking and he should be focusing on the answer using it as learning opportunities and teaching safety and responsibility for both the man and the women.

danie... danielleapril

since when are questions offensive? how else do you get peoples opinions on these topics without asking the questions

nonmember avatar rusty

So if my girlfriend an I are drunk, no sex?

Robbie Haverstock

Really? Really? you are freaking out because he asked a question. Have you lost all grip on reality? Talk about making a mountain out of a molehill. I am sooooooo glad that you are properly informed about what is rape and what isn't. I had a girl in class tell me last week how she got drunk and had sex and really regretted it. I told her that having sex with someone who can't consent is rape and I would never do it. She stood her ground that she wasn't raped. So queen on high, maybe the question does need to be asked and answered so that the people in university with me know you shouldn't have sex with someone who is drunk. The stir always scrapes the bottom of the barrel for writers.

miche... micheledo

Truly curious - because I don't drink.

If you are married or in a relationship, are you off limits to your spouse/so if you are drunk??  What about if the guy is drunk too?  Do you expect your so/husband to be the one to say no to sex if you are both drunk?

nonmember avatar FarmersWife

I'm missing the offensive part? "If a girl is drunk is it ok to have sex with her?" Um, it depends. If she seems too drunk to realize, it's wrong. If you think she would say no sober, it's wrong. If your in a consensual relationship and alcohol has her in the mood- yes, of course it's ok! It didn't say "if a girl is passed out drunk...." People are too sensitive and

Love an argument. In my relationships, the answer to that question is absolutely.

Eddie... EddiesMama83

Dr Phil ticked me off years ago when he didn't report a child molester to police. I'm not really surprised by this but then I don't really look to so-called doctors/scientists/experts for advice either. 

Eddie... EddiesMama83

BTW, if people didn't fornicate, this wouldn't be a problem. Just sayin'

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