Gay Soldiers' 'Marriage Leave' Shows Our Country's Love for All Military Families

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all my people are equal sign american flagAfter the Defense of Marriage Act was totally squashed, and the government could start recognizing same-sex marriages, married military couples got psyched that this meant benefits for their spouses. But those who haven't been able to marry -- because they're not in a state where it's legal or they haven't been able to get leave from service -- are in a tougher spot. Thankfully, it looks like the Pentagon understands this -- and is doing what they should to make things right.

Now, same-sex spouses of military members are set to get health care, housing, and other benefits by the end of the month under a proposal put forth by the Pentagon. Plus, a draft Defense Department memo says the department may provide up to 10 days of leave to military personnel in same-sex relationships, so they can travel to states where they can legally marry, according to the AP. So awesome!

Nothing's in stone yet, but the proposed plan sounds thorough and fantastic. Not to mention that it speaks volumes about how seriously the Pentagon seems to be taking this new, DOMA-free era. The fact that they may be doing what they can to expedite the process with a 10-day leave, making it easier for same-sex military couples to reap the same benefits heterosexual couples have had, is really admirable. It shows that, finally, thank goodness, we are making progress as a nation by giving all military families the equal rights and benefits they've deserved all along. 

Are you reassured by this news?

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LexRamp LexRamp

No offense because I believe at marriage is awesome, but we are military and my husband wasn't given 10 days leave to get married....

Elaine Cox

come on know like orwell said..some animals are more equal than others

nonmember avatar ADAMandEVE

Seems to me unless you are non-white, q***r, atheist, and female you don't get squat. My BFFs fiance/husband had to get married by a JoP over a 8 hour layover(She flew to the same airport he was leaving for Iraq from.) Gays and women don't want EQUAL treatment. they want (and think they deserve) to be treated BETTER than any one else.

bills... billsfan1104

I don't mind the signs am I could care less who wants to be married and to whom, but pinning a poster to the American flag is disrespectful.

bills... billsfan1104

Are they going to give 10 day leave to straight couples too??

Simona08 Simona08

Straight couples have the right to marry whenever and wherever they want. Gay couples do not have that right, YET!

nonmember avatar kaerae

@Lex - Duh, because he didn't have to travel to another state to do it, that's the reason for the time, try reading!

nonmember avatar jojoma

No, straight people don't get the time because they can marry at any local courthouse in any state, it's TRAVEL TIME, what's so difficult to understand about that?

keelh... keelhaulrose

Adamandeve: You can get married by a jop during an eight hour layover, but a committed gay couple doesn't have that luxury. They have to be in a state that allows gay marriage, and wait however long it takes for the waiting period to expire, all to get the same benefits you or I could get getting married in a terminal. Give them gay marriage equality in every state and they won't need extra leave to get married.

Alex Winston

To all asking the question about time. Straight couples can get married anywhere. Gay couples have to travel to one of 13 places out of 50. Does it makes sense now? 

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