Couple Born the Same Day & Married 75 Years Die Just One Day Apart

75 year marriageTheir whole lives since getting married in 1937, Helen and Les Brown of California never spent more than a few hours apart from one another. They were even born the same day on New Year's Eve in 1918. And now, after living to the ripe old ages of 94 (and being married for 75 of them), the two have died just one day apart. Even their memorial services were joint.

According to their son, the two weren't perfect by any means. They were different from one another and they had issues like every other married couple. But they worked on them. They prioritized the family and each other and they made it to 75 years. May we all be so lucky.

In a world where it sometimes feels like love is a short-term kind of thing and marriage is disposable, it's so inspiring to hear this kind of love story. The reality is, we celebrate newlyweds every day in this culture as if they were some kind of beacon of love for the world. But, sweet as they are, they really have no idea.

It has taken me more than a decade of marriage to realize that marriage isn't about what happens in the months and years immediately following your fabulous wedding. Those are the years when you are young and tight and there are no kids weighing you down. Those are the years when your free time is yours and you can do whatever you want.

Nope.

Marriage is about the other times. It's about the times, seven years in, when you are dealing with serious issues involving finances and moving and children and worries, and you still look at one another and realize you are in love. It's about the hours after those times when you find yourself laughing hysterically at some joke your spouse made and realize even though you wanted to kill him an hour ago, there is no one in the world you would rather be with in your life.

It's about the times when your spouse looks at you, still fat and bleeding from birthing your children, and doesn't use platitudes like "you are so beautiful," but instead brushes your hair out of your face and looks at you like you are the only thing he sees. That's love. And it's not the kind that is found in the early years. It's the kind you find along the way, in the moments where you least WANT to love him.

When a couple makes it this long and they never spend time apart, some might criticize or call them "co-dependent." I say otherwise. I say these two found a once in a lifetime love and each knew the other was their best friend, soul mate, lover, and confidant all rolled into one person.

That's real love. That's real marriage. I can only hope I get as lucky as these two and have as many years with my spouse. And I also hope we die just one day apart as well. Why would we ever want to live without each other?

Do you know anyone who has been married a long time?

 

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Marcela Blunck Bowidowicz

I already told my husband we either die at the same time or I die first. I honestly don't know what I would do without him. 

Tendr... TendrelovinMaMa

my husbands grandparents were married for 70 years. they were inseparable as well and had so much love devotion and respect for each other. he pass first and she was still quite healthy but died exactly 2 weeks after him. drs. literally said it was from a broken heart. I hope my hubby and I can be like them :)

hello... hellokd87

I always tell my fiancee we're dying at the same time because I would lose it without him.

nonmember avatar Jenn

My grandparents were married for 65 years, and STILL held hands in their wheelchairs. They had rooms next to each other in their nursing home.

My grandmother had terminal bone and lung cancer for more than two years, but knew Grandpa would not survive without her.

She was lucid up until the last week of her life, when my 94 year old Grandpa took a turn for the worst.

When he passed, the family made plans for a double service, even though Grandma was still with us. She passed two days later, and they took their final journey together.

NO ONE will EVER convince me she did not wait for him. :)

RiotP... RiotPixie

My grandparents were married 52 years when my grandfather passed away. My grandmother lived another 12 years after that. Still hard to believe.

Jane Hicks

so sad but shows how love really turns out god bless them both


 

Sandee Incerto

R.I.P. Together that long you be come one. When one passes the other spouse has a broken heart. My sympathy.

Lolly Spies Crummett

My dad's parents were married for 65 years. We buried my mom's mom on their 52nd wedding anniversary. My parents were married 42.5 years when my daddy passed away. No where near a landmark, but hubby and I just celebrated 30 amazing years together.

nonmember avatar Rachel Mcclam

My mama and daddy were married 54years..My daddy died in 2010 with Leukemia..and 4 months later mama was Diagnosed with breast cancer.She battled and fought hard until The Lord took her home to be with my daddy on June of the year.they had a awesome marriage and I hope I do to one day..I miss them so much

Maeclark Maeclark

My inlaws were married 40yrs not an incredible long time but still a long time. They passed away 7 months apart. Even though it was hard for their children I know it's what they would have wanted. My father in law did not want to live with out his wife and 7 months later he passed away of lung cancer and followed her to heaven.

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