College Student Told She Wasn’t Raped Because He Didn’t 'Finish'

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facepalmCan someone please help out the University of Southern California police? They seem a bit confused about how this how rape/sexual assault business works. In fact, it's gotten so bad that there's a federal investigation of the campus police and school officials into their alleged failure to prosecute rape. 13 people have filed complaints, including one woman who says she was told she wasn't raped because her assailant didn't orgasm.

"Because he stopped, it was not rape," the victim was told when she reported the rape, according to a complaint she filed. "Even though his penis penetrated your vagina, because he stopped, it was not a crime." 

Okay ladies? It's not rape if he stops. So someone can force himself on you, but if at some point he says, "Oh, my mistake! Excuse me while I remove myself here" and he hasn't ejaculated yet, it's not really rape. It's something we call "schmape." Schmape is more common than you think. I wonder what else the USC campus police classify as schmape, and not, you know, rape rape.

I'm kidding about the schmape. It's just... Where do they get these guys? Shouldn't you have to know what rape is in order to get hired with campus police? Would an IQ test be out of order?

Another woman complained that her ex-boyfriend raped her. She even had a recording of him bragging about it. But she says the campus police gave her the old "not my job" line, telling her their "goal was to offer an 'educative' process, not to 'punish' the assailant." First of all, ye gods, they don't even know what their job is (enforce the law???). Secondly, are these people really in a position to educate anyone about anything, let alone about sexual assault?

Then there was the student who reported a sexual assault at a frat house party. According to her complaint, campus police told her and a friend that women should not "go out, get drunk, and expect not to get raped." Well now we know; campus police are there to enforce the law, unless of course you go and get drunk and then you're on your own. Only men can get drunk. If you have a vagina, stay home and stay sober. Alcohol is just for the guys.

So the feds do an investigation and come to the shocking conclusion that the USC campus police are a bunch of stone-age knuckleheads. Now what? There are similar investigations happening at college campuses all over the country. Francesca Bessey, who is part of a group lawsuit, says she hopes it changes how college administrators and campus police respond to complaints about sexual assault. "For me, the technical outcome of the investigation is much less important than the consciousness I want it to inspire among decision makers at colleges and universities nationwide."

In other words, she wants to put these guys on notice. They're doing it wrong, and they need to get educated.

Are you surprised at the USC police's responses to these complaints about sexual assault?


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LeeshaE LeeshaE

Disgusted but not surprised considering the asinine things lawmakers say about rape.

nonmember avatar Jennifer

Not saying any of these comments were acceptable, because frankly they were all disgusting and should never have been said, but if you read the original article and the case file that is registered with LA county you'll see that these statements were made by the schools ethics committee not the school police. The ethics committee, which really is set up to handle cheating allegations and other academic issues, also some how is in charge of investigating sexual assault claims on campus. The people who made these statements weren't cops but school bureaucrats who don't have any legal standing, not cops. Still not acceptable but again these people were not law enforcement officials.

liz549 liz549

No I'm not stupid fuckin idiots victim always become the assault over and over again. Lord please forgive me for that word.

Trina_ Trina_

Well this depends, was it consensual and then she asked him to stop, then he stopped and then she claimed rape? I think theres alot of cases when girls have sex with a guy and feel bad about it and then call it rape. Rape is when a man forces himself on a girl WITHOUT the girl leading him on first. Just like an attack. I think we need more information before we comment on this.

bills... billsfan1104

Ty Jennifer. That is how these writers do it, they want to cause trouble.

1Step 1Step

Trina, you must be living under a rock.  Or be some sort of nut job.  Your incredibly narrow definition of rape is unbelievable.   Are you really Todd Aiken?  C'mon - you can come clean with us ( :  I bet you think that women also have a way of "shutting that whole pregancy thing down" when we're raped too.  And of course going to a party and having a few drinks is totally "leading them on" right?? 

Sarah... SarahHall58

Why is it so hard for people to accept the fact that rape is a REAL thing? Why does everyone want to deny it????

Trezure Fenton-Cook

Trina may you never be raped, either by your definition or because you kissed a guy and he took it as  you leading him on.

chero... cherokeegoddess

so women aren't allowed to drink if they go out because it targets them to get raped??? have they ever heard of when assholes target a girl they slip something in their drink? seriously? some people can be so narrow minded and lack intelligence. because he didn't finish it's not considered rape. wow.

bookl... booklover74

Trina , rape is when you don't say YES and hes does it anyway. It doesn't matter if you are doing a nakked pole dance in front of him first. If you don't say YES and he does it anyway then he raped you!

Making out, talking to, grinding against a person, feeling someone up, letting someone touch you, getting nakked around them...none of these are saying yes.

Shame on you and your backwards, incomplete, blame the victim, shitty defnition of rape.

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