Brave Man Dies Defending Terrified Woman From Bar Harassment

man killed in barWhen Jesus Solis walked into Vera's Sports Bar early Monday morning, he didn't expect to have it be the last time in his life. But it was. The regular patron was shot during an argument after he stood to defend a woman being harassed by three men. The woman didn't want to dance, the men wanted her to, and Solis got in the middle.

The story is a horrifyingly sad one with shades of the father who recently lost his life after trying to save a drowning young girl (not his own). These kinds of stories break our hearts. They also scare us.

Who among us would be so brave after hearing stories like these? Would we accept the danger to our own lives and well being in order to help another human being? I'd like to think I would. But the reality is, none of us knows.

We all want to believe that, like Solis, we would have the courage to stand up for a woman being harassed or jump into the water to save a child (even one that wasn't our own), but when push comes to shove, it's hard to know. Unless you have stood there, making those decisions in those moments, you really just don't know.

It's our job as a society to protect one another and to stand up for people who are weaker than us. It's ingrained in us and we honor people -- firemen, police officers, soldiers -- who put themselves in harm's way to help others.

But those people choose jobs like that. They choose to protect us and serve our country. It doesn't make it any less heroic, but it does take a certain kind of person. The everyday citizen walking into a bar may not be ready to be a hero.

Solis was. And he paid a price for that courage. My heart goes out to his family and all the people who loved him. But maybe they can take some comfort in the fact that he faced a scary moment, a moment where many people would have hidden behind their beers and "stayed out of it." He didn't "mind his own business." He stepped in to help a frightened woman.

That's a true hero.

Would you be brave enough to do something like this?

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LostS... LostSoul88

It's stories like this that keep people from doing good thing. People are killed, beat and sued just because they do a good thing. America has fallen apart. 

LeeshaE LeeshaE

People that are deterred by stories like this are not good people. It is far more virtuous to act on what you know is good simply because it is what is right, disregarding what is in ones own best interest or any praise one may receive.

hopef... hopefulmommieLW

Could you be a little MORE judgemental LeeshaE? Who are you to say that people are not good people if stories like this deter them? I don't think that is very nice on your part.

LostS... LostSoul88


Call me a bad person for thinking of my kids FIRST. I guess I am a bad person for that but I am a damn good parent for it. I will NEVER risk my life unless it was for my kids or someone else's kid. 

nonmember avatar Ugh

Lostsoul88 ... this man probably didn't think he was risking his life when stepping in to defend this woman. He probalby figured the punks would just back off and leave her alone. I doubt he knew they had a gun and would acutually kill him. So sad.

nonmember avatar Heather

You say you wouldn't step in unless it was your kid or someone else's...that lady is someone's daughter. If one of your children was in the same situation and you weren't there, wouldn't you hope someone stands up for them?

Krist... Kristanna

It makes me sad to hear others blatantly say they would not risk their lives for the lives of another...what if it was YOU that was in danger and someone refused to help because they wanted to be around for their children. 

You can't tell me Lostsoul88 that if your life was in danger, you wouldn't want someone to help you.

You are right on one part Lostsoul88, America HAS fallen apart. It's fallen apart because the vast majority has raised their children to be adults like YOU. Selfish, scared, timid, dependent, entitled, wimps.

I would (and have) risk my life for others without a second thought. My parents were old school I guess. The instilled in my brothers and sisters and I to be thoughtful, caring, brave, selfless, strong, individuals. 

While I would never want to leave my children motherless, I could NEVER stand by and let someone elses children become motherless or fatherless when I could have done something to help.

Panda... PandaPop83

I honestly don't know. In school, I've always been the one to stand up for the ones being picked on. My reputation got shot from that. But to risk something much more than just my reputation? I don't know if I'm that brave. For a kid, without a heartbeat, because I have children of my own, and I don't think anyone would just let something happen to them if they could help. But for another adult? I'll have to think about it. Don't get me wrong. I wish I was brave and courageous to stop another person from getting hurt. In a case like this, I think I might have stayed out of it. I'm not trying to use the "she better than me", but to throw myself in the middle of a group of men that is already harrassing another woman? I'd rather go and get security. I'm just being honest. When it comes to fight or flight, I think I'm more the flight kind of person.

nonmember avatar MoMtoFive

I wouldn't think twice. I can only do what is right, and that's to help another person in need. There are no other options for me. I teach my children the same thing. If someone needs help, you help them.

nonmember avatar Lizzie Borden

Why risk your life for a kid? They just grow up to be an adult you wouldnt save.

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