It's hard to imagine a more horrifying case of domestic abuse than mother of three Lindsey Arp suffered two years ago.
She survived, but at a tremendous physical and emotional cost. Her life -- and the lives of her children -- will never be the same. We interviewed Lindsey recently for Moms Matter, and it's a story that every woman, and every man for that matter, should see.
To add insult to Lindsey's devastating injuries, her medical insurance had lapsed shortly before she was attacked. I can't even imagine going through her experience AND having to worry about how she would ever pay her medical costs.
Fortunately, Charity Care and Dr. J. Blair Summit at Vanderbilt University Medical Center heard Lindsey's story and agreed to perform her reconstructive surgeries and treatments for free. Lindsey is also fortunate that her mother was able to move into her home and help care for Lindsey and her three children.
The Tennessee Coalition to End Domestic and Sexual Violence is raising money to help Lindsey cover the costs of medical assistance and of raising her children- Obviously, she can no longer work. If you feel moved to donate, you can do so on the TN Coalition's fundraising page for Lindsey.
One important lesson I learned from Lindsey's story is that by far the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when the woman tries to leave- That's often when the worst abuse happens, because the perpetrator knows he has finally lost control of his victim. That's why it's imperative that if you're leaving an abusive relationship, you should try to do it swiftly and quietly. If you call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-787-3224, you can get help finding a safe way to leave and survive without your abusive partner.
Lindsey is healing mentally as well as physically now - She has an amazing outlook on life and I am amazed at how far she's come since her ordeal. She's putting herself out there in the hope that no other woman has to experience what she did -- She obviously wishes she had left her relationship sooner, and I really hope her story helps convince other women out there that it's best to get out of their abusive relationship as soon as possible.
What do you think of Lindsey's story?
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