Mother Charged With Stabbing Her 14-Year-Old Autistic Son to Death

mother stabbed autistic sonDorothy Spourdalakis of Illinois was the mother of a 14-year-old boy with severe autism and is now accused of doing the unthinkable. The boy was found stabbed to death, and police say his mother said it was all too much for her and that she and close family friend Jolanta Agatha Skrodzka tried to end the pain for the boy and for themselves.

Apparently after allegedly stabbing the boy, they took a bunch of sleeping pills and prepared to die. But it didn't work that way.

What is perhaps saddest in a story that is just horrifically painful is that Spouradalakis asked for help. She posted YouTube videos on the Autism Media Channel saying he needed a home in the country, space to run around in, and that she needed help. But she never got it. See below:

Her pleas just break my heart. As a mother myself, I can't even begin to fathom what she must have felt, the desperation and fear. She moved from motel to motel trying to take care of him, and from what it sounds like, Alex may have been days away from being taken from his mother and put in an institution.

Authorities found a three-page note that was written by the mother, detailing how difficult life was with her son, but state officials tell a different story. They say they offered help and the family turned it down. 

It's obvious, as a parent, to immediately go to the pain this woman was going through and to try to imagine what I might do in her place. It's almost impossible and I am not sure we can judge without walking that path ourselves and knowing what it feels like. On the other hand, if she WAS offered help and she refused it, then what? Was stabbing her son really the only answer? It seems like even in that, there must have been kinder ways of doing it. She has pills, so why not that? Maybe she needed to be sure he was dead before she could leave herself.

The desperation and sadness in this story will continue to haunt my thoughts, but I have to believe there were better options. I have to believe that somehow, somewhere, she could have found the help she so desperately needed.

This story is just sickeningly sad, but it speaks to what parents of children with severe special needs go through every day and the kind of support they really need. To avoid cases like this in the future, we need to take a long, hard look at our society and make sure that every mother feels supported and empowered in making choices for her child.

In a society as wealthy as ours, there is just no excuse for anyone to feel this alone.

Do you think this mother did everything she could?

 

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jalaz77 jalaz77

There is still no excuse to murder your son. She didn't try hard enough. There are families out there with more than one autistic child and would never murder their children. This is sad on so many levels....

bills... billsfan1104

Are you going to call the knife a "a weapon of death" too?

early... earlybird11

Thanks bills fan. When r we banning knives :)

zombi... zombiemommy916

Sorry, judgement ahead...they STABBED him to death and then took sleeping pills so they could peacefully slip away?? F that...they're horrible, evil women...my sister-in-law is mentally handicapped, has the mentality of a five-year old and is severely autistic...I work with her all day and when my in-laws pass, my husband and I will become her legal guardians...we all work incredibly hard to get her every single bit of help the government offers her (day programs, communication devices, etc)...it's difficult and frustrating, but we DO it because we LOVE her so much...never has the thought of brutally murdering her crossed our minds...

bills... billsfan1104

Awwww zombie. I would do the same thing. I wonder what really happened with this mother. If the help is there and she didn't take it or if the system failed her. I see a lot of parents frustrated with how they are treated

marci... marcie1455

SAD all the way around.  Unimaginable that his spectrum disorder caused him to be restrained.  His mother definitely needed psychiatric help to cope. (Didn't someone see this coming?)   I have so many questions regarding this case.  I lived in an area once where me and my child fell totally through the cracks, when we relocated to another area a doctor red flagged our case and got me all the help we needed immediately.  


sad

LostS... LostSoul88

if she did everything she could she wouldn't have killed him!!!!!

Irela... Ireland69

May God forgive her and the godmother and May he RIP.  He is an angel up in heaven now.

Cooks... Cookster792

If she lived here in New Jersey she probably would have had to go on a waiting list for any help. That is


what  happened to one of my friends. It's the same with Alzheimers. My mom was diagnosed and  I was


her caregiver and could NOT get any help and believe me I called everybody. I was told I had to go on a


waiting list. This was just for respite care.  My mom died and I was still her caregiver with help from no


one. I have a clear conscience and no regrets.  I pray for parents of special needs children.   

Tiffany Michael

I am guessing the mother had to had some mental illness of her own! I am a mother of an autistic boy and a girl with Aspergers among two other children! Yes there are days where I want to pull my hair out but as a mother killing my children is just an unthinkable evil! She had to be suffering from her own illness! Just had to be!

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