She’s Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge, But She’ll Always Be Kate Middleton to Us

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kate middletonWe hear you. Kate Middleton married Prince William and now her name is officially Catherine Elizabeth, the Duchess of Cambridge. She is a countess now! Have some respect. And she's been married for two years, so why the persistence of her maiden name, Middleton? At the very least, we should be calling her Catherine instead of Kate. I suppose. Or the Duchess, or Dutchy, or Kitty Kat Crown, or -- oh sorry. I was having fun with her name again. Can't we just call her Kate?

Here's the thing. We know what her proper name is. But we're not going to use it -- at least, not on a regular basis.

First of all, it's just too formal. I feel like I need to put on my pearls and a pair of gloves to say "Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge." That's quite a mouthful. Seven or eight syllables, depending on how you pronounce Catherine. And the duchess bit, well, it's fancy and impressive, but we usually save our fancy things for special occasions. Why bring out the china for every single meal?

As for her "maiden name" -- how can anyone even use that phrase in this day and age with a straight face? When was the last time you actually met an engaged woman who was technically a maiden? You know what I mean. Half of us keep our born last names after we marry anyway. I sure did. (P.S., more convenient that way when you divorce years later, just saying.) And even if you don't keep your last name, the ghost of it trails after you even after you change to your husband's, always a part of your identity because it was your last name for the first 20, 30, 35 years of your life.

She may be the future Queen Consort, but she'll always be Kate Middleton to us. Using that name reminds us of where she came from -- okay, so she was never exactly one of us. But she wasn't born into royalty, either, and I think that's one of the things people like about her. Princess Diana was known as the "people's princess," and Kate is even more so.

We just like Kate better. Anyway, we're very casual on this side of the pond. No disrespect -- we love that the title exists. But it's Kate for us.

How do you feel about saying "Kate Middleton" vs. "Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge"?


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nonmember avatar NoWay

So, why don't you call the queen "Elizabeth Alexandra Mary" or hey ... why not "Lizzie" ... jeez! She is normally referred to as "Queen Elizabeth" so you could at least call "Kate" "Dutchess, Catherine" or even "Dutchess Kate" ...

nonmember avatar NoWay

OOps! There is no "t" in Duchess ... that's what I get for trying to type too fast.

Rhond... RhondaVeggie

Lots of people call the queen Lizzy. William goes by Will; he used the name Will Wales at uni. Calling her Kate is fine. 

cmjaz cmjaz

Well, not to mention that she's probably very proud to be married to William (the man, not the Prince) and wouldn't mind being called Kate Wales

LadyM... LadyMinni

Her legal name is now Catherine Wales, how about calling her that? Or the Duchess of Cambridge? Or you may call her by her other title, Princess William.

Maybe people should disregard that you have ever been married in your life. If people can't get it through their stupid thick skulls to use my married name, they won't be around me anymore. It's disrespectful and it ISN'T HER NAME.

nonmember avatar Victoria

Well, you refer to Diana as Princess Diana when you have indicated in your article you didnt't want to be formal. You are contradicting yourself. I live in the same side of the pond you are and I agree with some poster there that Kate Middleton is not even her name, and I prefer Duchess Kate like I prefer to call my president with his title and not just first or last name.

nonmember avatar Aries

Thank you for finally getting it! She is Duchess Catherine. I don't believe she is a Countess. She may be whomever you want her to be for your staff, but for the public, we certainly appreciate the wife of Prince William being called what he calls her, Catherine, with no surname. Thank you for this respect as the heir to the throne will be born next month.

nonmember avatar Guest

It is the staff's refusal to change. Someone has to start it. That's what they're doing in GB. One magazine is emailing the others to what the correct title is. She is a married royal - no surname. In fact, she has royal blood by a 6th generation connection to Prince William. There's Princess Charlene, a real commoner, who married into royalty. You don't called her Charlene Wittstock. Do your readers right and show some respect, esp for her and the heir to the throne who will be born next month. Duchess Catherine is a married royal. She is popular just like Princess Diana was out of respect and people feeling like they could connect to her. Please reconsider your position. Thank you.

nonmember avatar Brana

Her Royal Highness shares all her husband's titles. She is: HRH Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge, Countess of Strathearn, Baroness Carrickfergus, and a Princess of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Northern Ireland and other realms.

Catherine should be addressed by her husband’s higher title of the Duke: HRH Catherine, the Duchess of Cambridge. Please, don’t confuse her title with not royal Sarah, Duchess of York (notice without “the” or HRH).

Catherine is married and a Royal. Middleton, she is no more. Please, show some respect.
Why not calling her HRH Catherine? It’s short, it’s right, not confusing and respectful.

Georgina Kouta Kouyoumdjian

I think there isn't a better way of expressing my thoughts too, than your beautifully expressed opinion and explanation on how to address Kate Middleton!

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