6 Ways to Get Back at Your Husband's Mistress That Won't Get You Arrested

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angry womanYou know what they say: Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. That is especially true in matters of the heart. Take Shena Moore, for instance. When she discovered flirty texts on her boyfriend's phone (that she didn't send), she decided to get even -- with the other woman. How, you ask? By attempting to cut off her fingers with garden shears. You read that correctly.

Wrong target, if you ask me. I believe the guy who actually made a commitment to you is to blame. But there are plenty of heartbroken women who don't see it that way. The other woman is the real villain in their eyes. Now, I'm all for a little revenge. But let's keep it legal, ladies. Here are a few suggestions for how to get back at your man's mistress that won't get you thrown in a jail cell.

  1. If she is married or in a committed relationship, rat her out. He has the right to know too. And in a way, you are doing a public service. If he is having unprotected sex with her, he should know if she's sleeping around.
  2. Confront her in public. You don't have to make a big scene, but let her know what she did was wrong and hurtful. If she has an ounce of decency, she will feel ashamed about breaking up a happy home.
  3. If she is a friend, ice her out. Don't take her phone calls, don't even acknowledge her existence.
  4. If you are in the same social circle, share her dirty misdeeds with the friends you have in common.
  5. Send her the bill for the movers after you kick your lying ex out of your house.
  6. Let her have him. Dealing with that inconsiderate, cheating jerk 24/7 is exactly what she deserves. Besides, if he'll do it with you, he'll do it to you.

However, there is ultimately a better course of action. As tempted as you may be to go after "her," you are better off just moving on with your life. Don't waste any more energy on that cheater or the skank he did it with.

Have you ever sought revenge against the woman who stole your man? What did you do?


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nonmember avatar April

I did number 1. In a sense. They were seperated and going through a rough legal battle. So I told her husband about the affair and that it began before they were seperated.

I also called her mom and asked for her. When she stated she wasn't there and asked if she could take a message I said "yes. Please ask her to stop f*cking my husband"

Was it petty? yes. It was incredibly satisfying in the moment as well. I don't place all the blame on her. But She knew my husband was married, she was married and she initiated it anyway. My husband is at fault as well, I'm very aware of that. But neither is blameless

keelh... keelhaulrose

Honestly if I found my husband was having an affair I'd only be mad with the mistress of she knew he was a married man. If he presented himself as single and she went with him under that impression it's all on him, unless she tries to hold on after finding out. Then all bets are off.

I don't see the point in punishing an innocent party.

Todd Vrancic

No offense, but husbands (and wives) aren't wallets.  You can't steal them.

Victo... Victoria0785

When my ex fiance cheated on me, the other girl had no idea either. So when I found out, I made sure to enlighten her. It wasn't her fault, she didn't know about me either so I wasn't a total bitch about it. I just emailed her the text messages he had sent, emails, and the call log from his phone number to mine. In the end he ended up alone, and I lost almost 200 lbs of jack ass.

TheMi... TheMillerFamily

The best revenge in this instance in my opinion is to ditch the dude, move on and live a great life. The more you do to get "even" the more of a "reason" he believes he has to "justify" his wrong doings.

Move on, live your life and be happy, don't let these stupid people interfere with you doing whats necessary to make you happy in life, plus all "revenge" does is make you look immature and gives people something bad to talk about when it comes to you.

nonmember avatar Survived!

My 33 year old husband cheated with a 18 year old. This went on the entire time I was pregnant. found out, kicked him out, divorced him. He is now father to another baby with her, she does not work, they are broke, he was recently incarcerated, and they fight all the time! I didn't have to do anything - karma did it all! Now I look back and am glad she freed me from him.

jessa... jessasmamma

My ex husband cheated on me with multiple women, one of whom he is currently in a relationship with. As much as I would love to get my revenge - they're both getting screwed by karma. He's stuck with a hideous (I don't like to use that word, but it truly describes her - she's beyond nasty) little girl who is dumber than a bag of rocks. He cheats on her ALL THE TIME. I tried to enlighten her, but she believes all of his lies about being faithful. When he was in town in March for our daughter's birthday party - he was literally making jokes about how stupid she is. Now obviously, he likes something about her or he wouldn't be with her at all, but any "man" that will say the things that he said about someone that he is with, is a horrible human being. (He just continues to prove it over and over.)  The funny thing is that she tries to say I am "jealous" of her and him... I was with him for over 3 years and I can honestly say - she did me a favor. He is lazy, dirty, an alcoholic and just.. a piece of crap. He hasn't even had a job in over 18 months! lol ahhh, I love Karma so much!

Diane Joyce Webb

She wanted him I pushed him til he left.  Best thing I ever did!!


Bunny Lee DuChemin Wilson

I would NEVER seek revenge on the mistress. That's nothing but displaced anger. She may have chosen to be with a married man and I have no respect for her but the responsibility to keep my marriage faithful lies with my husband, not this woman. She didnt make him cheat. He's the only who needs to responsibility for it.

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