Being dumped sucks. No one likes it. And yet we all experience it at least once. When it does happen, it's all up to us how we handle it. Some people go a little bonkers and begin stalking the dumper -- as if that will help matters. Others take it even further. Take Kayla Earl. The beautiful 19-year-old brunette says she's a model, and she's auditioning for America's Next Top Model. But beauty doesn't always mean you've got your head on straight -- and apparently Kayla doesn't. She was found by a sheriff's deputy passed out in a graveyard with a Walmart bag over her head. In the hospital, she said that a man had attacked her as she visited the grave of a friend. But it turns out the truth was even more sordid.
After cops reviewed cellphone records, watched surveillance video, and poked holes in Kayla's story -- she reportedly confessed the truth. She had made the whole thing up.
To get her ex-boyfriend back.
Said a detective on the case:
She even said she put the bag on her head to make it look like someone tried to suffocate her. She is going through some personal problems. Between that and wanting attention, it turns out none of this happened.
Nope, it turns out that Kayla was trying to lure back her ex by stoking sympathy with her "I was attacked in a graveyard" story. Because that's so attractive.
Look, I'm not going to poke fun of Kayla because she is obviously a disturbed young woman in a lot of pain. I think we all go through times where we feel out of control and helpless and we're tempted to play the victim card, hoping that will solve all of our problems.
It doesn't. In fact, it just creates more.
If a man gets back together with you out of sympathy, how are you supposed to hang on to him? By creating episodes of victimhood all of the time? Are you going to get fake attacked every time it looks like your BF wants to bail again? Are you going to bring up your attack every time your BF and you get into a fight? Too many people use the victim card by doing everything from threatening suicide to faking injuries or attacks or even rapes to keep people bound to them through sympathy and guilt. Or merely for the attention!
It's not fair. It's not right. That's manipulation. And why would you want to be with someone who is not with you freely, but out of some sense of obligation? That will only last for so long. And it's not real love. It's pity.
That said, it's so wrong to cry rape or attack if it didn't happen. So many women are sexually assaulted for REAL and not believed. It's stories like Kayla's that make it difficult for all women who are truly assaulted.
But remember -- if you need to make up stories, lie, manipulate, or use threats, then that is not the relationship for you. That is not what relationships should be built on. And when they are, they always come crumbling down.
Have you ever done anything to get an ex back that you're ashamed of?
Image via Pleasant Grove Police Dept.