Mother Arrested for Assaulting 11-Year-Old Girl But We Can't Blame Her

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A mother was arrested inside her daughter's school after allegedly assaulting an 11-year-old girl whom her daughter says was bullying her. Attifa Brown was charged with a slew of things that make her sound like a terrorist -- including "terroristic threats." Which makes me wonder what that entails exactly because I have the feeling well all make "terroristic threats" occasionally when we're pissed off! Anyway, the mom says she had good reason to confront the 11-year-old -- because she was beating up her daughter, who even has a face bruise to show for it. She denies she assaulted her, however.

Videotape caught the incident inside the school and the alleged bully's mom, Bobby Webster, denies her child is a bully and says about the other mom:

The tape showed this lady over my daughter for minutes, poking her in the face, pulling her hair and beating her.

Well, yikes, if there's videotape showing THAT, then the mom is in trouble. Says Lt. John Walker of the Philadelphia police:

The problem here is that we have a 26-year-old mother who has no reason to approach an 11-year-old child, so her credibility as far as I'm concerned is shot.

No offense, officer, but I beg to differ that she had "no reason" to approach an 11-year-old child. If the child was assaulting her child and complaints to the school brought no action (as they often don't) then I can't blame the mom for getting in the little girl's face. Now laying hands on her (if she did)? That's another story.

But what is a mother to do? Mothers are sick of this. As this mom, who denies she touched the girl, says: "I'm human."

The right way to go about this would be to report incidents to the school. To document bruises or other evidence. To call the police.

But what if they do nothing???!!!

Then, yeah, I don't blame a mom for going all mama bear and getting in a kid's face. Shamefully, I would do it too. Does this teach your kid that violence is the only way to stop violence? Not if done correctly. Not if you stand tall over that bully, look her straight in the eye, point a finger and say, calmly, "You are not to touch my child again."

And if THAT doesn't work? Then what? I wish I had the answer. Laying hands on another child will just get you in trouble, like this woman is now. Now she needs to hire a lawyer, she might lose her job, might even go to jail.

Schools, wake up. Zero tolerenace for bullying should mean, at the very least, a conference with all parties. Separating the girls into different classes. Eyes on both parties. Something! And as for moms who insist their little snowflakes aren't bulliers, sit down with your child anyway. Maybe they ARE. Talk to them. Discipline them for god's sake!

At least this mom didn't go to school with a chain.

What do you do when your child is being bullied? Is your child's school helpful?

 

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Brain... BrainyMommy

Children are being bullied to death. Literally. So if the school doesn' t act then parents must remember they are in a fight to save their child's life. If that means confronting the bully, then so be it. If you don't want your child confronted by an adult, then teach your offspring not to be a bully.

Nurse... Nursekelly1980

As an adult, you have no right to lay your hands on another person's child. ever. I can't say that I wouldn't want to do the same, but you have to be the adult here, not show the kids that violence is the answer. The school board needs to get involved here and if they don't, head to the court system. Someone in this bully's life had shown her violence is ok.

Kim MacDonald

As a person who was bullied to the point that I almost had to switch schools, I can sympathize with the family. I know my mom had gone to the school and talked to them. Instead of stopping this group of girls from harassing me everyday, I had to go and sit in the counselors office for almost 6 months to have my lunch. A group of 4 to 5 girls were picking on a friend of mine at our lunch table and I stood up for her. I then became their target. I had food thrown at me, I was physically assaulted, I was called so many names, and I felt completely worthless. I finally broke down and told my mom after months of countless abuse. My mother immediately called the school and was told that since I stood up to them I was somehow to blame. That I should just ignore it. Schools need to come up with new ways to stop bullying before parents have to get involved or children die.

tuffy... tuffymama

Public schools are battlegrounds. What did I do when my kid was being bullied by miscreants? I withdrew him from that school and took him home.

Venae Venae

Pulled mine from middle school and home schooled - the school was no help regarding my son being bullied.  My son was slapped by another student in gym - surrounded by 3 classes of kids, teachers and coaches, yet no one saw a thing.  When other students tried to tell what happened, they were told to get back in line.  When I talked to the coach about it, she didn't remember my son being slapped, but she did remember that my son had on navy shorts instead of black (because his black shorts had been stolen the week before and navy was all they had left in the store).  That was just one incident.  I have 4 pages of notes about other incidents, meeting w/school personnel.....like I said, my kid was pulled after 3 1/2 months of bullying in school.

menik... menika1965

Its shameful that schools claim to be "anti-bullying" but yet when push comes to shove, they're not any better than anyone else about stopping the violence! Maybe they need to implement a program about bullying, just like they started sex education back in the '70's???

adopt... adoption2013

So if there's a video of that her lawyer needs to get in gear and get disclosure of the videos from where her daughter is being assaulted.  This will not be a defense but a mitigating factor on sentencing.  Schools do nothing to stop bullies and then when the bullied kids or the parents lose it school officials cry foul.  If my daughter is bullied I will pull her out and homeschool.  You don't have to put up with getting black eyes as adults in the workforce why should kids.

Laurie Palmer

I know I was bullied and it is awful. But the person she should have been going after we're the girl's parents. I hope I'm wrong, but that kind of behavior doesn't come from nowhere. But I also know when my parents wanted to confront the parents of the boys who were bullying me, I zipped my mouth because I knew it would lead to more bullying (and be even more cruel).  My heart breaks when I hear stories about kids that go through this. 

livel... livelaughlov26

You have to be kidding me. She is a grown woman. She assaulted a little girl. You are too stupid to be writing articles.

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