Mom Arrested for Putting 3-Year-Old Up for Adoption on Craigslist & That’s Not Even the Worst Part

Stephanie RedusWe've had more than a few "tried to sell the kid on Craigslist" stories floating around the Internet in recent years. Way too many, if you ask me. But there's something about the latest mom charged with trying to adopt out her 3-year-old son via a Craigslist ad that's a bit unusual.

The mom, Stephanie Redus, doesn't sound like your typical jerk mom who would use Craigslist to offload a kid because she doesn't care. I can't get truly enraged at her. If anything, I read the Texas mom's story and I felt ... pity.

The pangs of sympathy don't excuse what she's accused of doing. You just don't put your kid up for adoption on Craigslist, people. Who knows what kind of sicko is out there, just waiting to pounce?

That said, read what Redus' allegedly posted online:

Hi, I’m trying to adopt out my three year old son. I’m not in a good place in my life and don’t feel like I can care for him properly, but I don’t know where to start. If you or know anyone who is interested in caring for him please let me know. I’m a single mom and can’t do this. Thanks, Desperate.

Does that sound like a mom trying to make a quick buck? A mom who really doesn't give two craps about her kid? Notice she repeats the words "care (or caring) for him" twice in there.

Call me a sucker, but Redus sounds ... like a fairly good mom.

Hey, I said fairly. She is charged with trying to arrange a Craigslist adoption.

But I should probably also tell you that Redus is pregnant.

Does that make you feel more sympathetic?

Me too.

It's HARD out there for parents who are feeling overwhelmed. There are "safe haven" laws, but in most places, they don't extend much past a baby's birth. Even finding a good babysitter to watch your kid for a few hours so you can get a handle on things is tough in this economy. As a recent report shows, the price of childcare has DOUBLED in the past 25 years.

Parents struggling with toddlers (or older kids) either have supportive family and friends to help out or ... what? Who will come to their aid when they're swimming as hard as they can and feeling like the undertow keeps pulling them in?

If we really want to put an end to the "kid being sold on Craigslist stories," maybe we need to look at why they keep happening.

So yes, we punish these parents who turn to Craigslist ... and we do something about the total lack of resources for struggling single parents out there.

That is how we make society better.

Do you feel sympathetic for this mom's plight? What do you think should be done with her?


Image via Lake Houston Police

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nonmember avatar Shandeigh

Does it make me feel more sympathetic because she's pregnant?! Are you kidding me! That actually enraged me. If you can't take care of the kid you have... why in the blue heck are you pregnant with another one?! If you're going to be having sex use protection and take the pill for petes sake. ugh.

redK8... redK8blueSt8

The add reads to me more like she was trying to find someone willing to adopt and go through the adoption process but she doesn't know where to start and is hoping someone on the other end looking to adopt would.

If she is serious, she should go to an adoption agency. I bet she could very quickly find a couple who has prayed and hoped for a child to adopt, she could keep her children together and adopt both the 3 year old and the newborn.

nonmember avatar Dana

I dont feel sympathetic for her at all ... i mean really ... i am 25 i have a 6 year old and i am pregnant as well. shortly after i found out i was pregnant my car broke down to the point where it was not worth fixing and i got evicted from my apartment because i could no longer afford it. but i worked my butt off to make sure my son was taken care of and i got a car got a place to live ... if you decide to lay down and get pregnant and have and keep the baby then it is your responsibility to care for him or her. you do what ever you have to to make things good. and for her to be pregnant again ... is the same thing going to happen with this baby as well? there are plenty of people out there that have kids and have rough lives but you dont see all of us trying to pawn our children off on craigslist. people need to realize your child did not ask to be born you did it therefore you need to stand up grow up and take responsibility for what you made. life can always get better it depends on how hard you try.

nonmember avatar rmchapek

i cant say i feel very sympathetic for her. i have a three year old as well and am pregnant. i cant imagine being in a situation where i would EVER consider doing that, on craigslist or even the 'right' way. i dont have a whole lot of help or money myself, but i would do absolutley anything for my children.


There are agencies out there that would have taken that child and the fact that she's having another child ...Will she do the same to that one too? It's just sad.That 3yo knows his mom and now to be uprooted from what he knows and loves is heartbreaking.But hey lets have another.

LostS... LostSoul88

Doesn't sound like she was selling him. Sounds like she was looking for help and needed to know where she had to go. 

nonmember avatar kaerae

All of you who have families can sit in judgment but, really, what is a single parent with no family to do if she has no one and doesn't want to turn to the horrid state system? She is a bit daft to think this would work, but I wouldn't say she's a terrible mom. I often wondered what would happen to my kids if I died while they were young, as I had no family either. I feel for her, I hope she can get some help, I believe she loves her kid, she's just not terribly bright or savvy and is, like she says, desperate. Would you rather read a story about a desperate mom who killed her kid because she couldn't handle it? At least she knows she's not fit and is trying to get her son into a good home.

Vegeta Vegeta

It sounded to me like she was asking for help or information. The ad didn't say "3 year old boy, 500$". Sucks that she got arrested for asking for help.

riadolph riadolph

As a mother of two young children, I have NO sympathy for her at all. If you couldn't handle the stress & strain of having one child, you shouldn't have had a second!! Keep your legs closed!!!

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