Mom Who Abandoned Family 11 Years Ago Gets What She Deserves (VIDEO)

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Heist familyThe story of Brenda Heist reminds me of one of those accident scenes on the highway. Not only can we not look away from the mom who disappeared 11 years ago after putting her kids on the bus in Pennsylvania -- only to be found alive and relatively well in Florida this week -- but we can't help but puzzling over how it all went down. Could a mom really just up and abandon her kids? Could her kids, when they found out mom was alive, really want nothing to do with her?

That's what's happened to Heist. Years after being declared legally dead, she's back ... and her family wants nothing to do with her.

Heist's daughter Morgan, in fact, had some pretty harsh words about mom on Piers Morgan last night. 

The 20-year-old, who was 8 at the time of her mom's disappearance, says Brenda can "rot in hell."

Who can blame her?

Brenda Heist wasn't kidnapped. She didn't get sick and go into a hospital for awhile. She didn't go off to serve in the military for awhile.

Morgan's mom walked out on her and her older brother. She left them thinking their mother had died, but it was perhaps even worse -- she just didn't care to be there and be their mother.

I wasn't surprised by her reaction or her equally disgusted dad. Lee Heist went through a period where his neighbors thought he'd killed his wife. He was judged in the worst of ways for something he didn't do. 

If anything, I'm surprised by people who do the opposite. You read stories like this that have happy endings relatively frequently. Family member disappears. Family member resurfaces. And all anyone can say is, "Oh, we're just so happy to have him/her home."

The ability to let bygones be bygones, to forgive someone for years of heartache and angst, is powerful and confusing all at the same time.

HOW do people forgive a transgression this grievous?

HOW do you get over being left? By someone who was supposed to love you?

Maybe I'm just the grudge-holding type.

Or maybe there's something to be said for holding people like Brenda Heist at arm's length. They've made their own beds, they need to lie in them now.

Check out Brenda Heist's family talking about her return:

Would you forgive Brenda Heist if you were part of her family? Or would you be like Morgan Heist?


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miche... micheledo

I completely understand their response.  But  I think it would have been wise for them to not comment at this time.  Emotions have to be SO raw.  Things could change in time.  Or they might not.


I know I couldn't forgive.If I had gone years thinking my mother was dead and crying every Christmas,birthday and mothers day and she was alive the whole time?She would really be dead to me.Mom looks like a meth head now.

Todd Vrancic

Maybe forgive them, but ever forgetting what they did?  Not gonna happen.

Hope Allyson

In most cases, I whole-heartedly believe in forgiveness; in this case, Heist's actions were so careless and heartless that she should not be allowed to live down the hurt that she caused. I have no sympathy for this woman. When you make a choice that permanently scars those who once loved you, you should have to live with the consequences of that choice for the rest of your life.

nonmember avatar sarahbeth

i can understand the abandonment issues, but apparently the mother had issues too. i agree emotions are raw right now, they should give it time. i have abandonment issues myself. my father commited suicide when i was 11 months old. at least they can find out why she did what she did. ill never know why.

kelly... kelly24019

Yeah eff her dude...

Dalena Ramos

you asked a question in beginning of this segment, could a mother really abandon her kids? answer is yes. i am raising my granddaughters because their mother left them. ive had them for over 3 yrs now and egg donor has only seen them less then 8 hours since youngest was born feb 2010. i myself was abandoned by my birth father and just recently found hes living close. dont know how i feel about it so i fully understand a child of age 8 thinking her mom dead and now alive and looking so ghastly would say what she does. i hope she finds some peace that she had a loving dad by her side and maybe she can be a friend to her birth mom in future.

Summer Gray

I don't think the mother deserves anything from the family. She made a choice to walk away. Then 11 years later is tired of her choice and comes up off the streets saying oh no I am not dead, just couldn't hack it..? The only good that came from all of this is that now the family has the shinning truth of what kind of person they have been grieving for....

Terry Haffey Westby

I dont think i could forgive her! But, i would try to forgive her in my heart so, then i could move forward with my life! I raised my grandson from the age of 4 and the mom was not in the picture much at all..but, i told him she is your mom. and when he got older to understand i told him if she comes to visit you,,then you have to be nice. its up to you if you what her to come over..which we did not have to worry because she never came over much at all..he is now 22 and this is his last year of college..a wonderful, it will be his choice now!! so, sorry this happen to you! God Bless!


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