Closing arguments in the Jodi Arias murder trial are underway and it shouldn't be long before we find out if Jodi is convicted of first degree murder and sentenced to life in prison or even gets the death penalty. I suppose there's always the slim chance that the jury may even feel sorry for Jodi or believe that she killed Travis Alexander in self defense as she claims and acquit her. I've always said that no one deserves to die for being a jerk -- but, let's face it, Travis was not a stand-up boyfriend. Not even a stand-up man. He treated Jodi like trash. And according to emails unearthed by the Arizona Republic, even his friends didn't like it.

The emails, from Travis's friend Sky Hughes, paint a picture of a guy who was a "womanizer," and who was apparently emotionally cruel to Jodi. Writes Sky:

... just because you have never seen her cry, doesn’t mean she hasn’t been crying. SHE LOVES YOU, so much that she is afraid that bringing up anything that is bothering her or letting you know she doesn’t think you are 'perfect' would ruin all chances to be with you.

After Sky and her husband warned Jodi that Travis was a "collector of women" and to move on, Travis became infuriated. Sky responded with an email, likening what she would tell a sister about her friend Travis:

He doesn’t call her during the day, he waits until after 1 am (giving her what is left of him at the end of every day). He jokingly calls her a skank. He tells her to go out with other guys, but makes her feel guilty when she does. Thus keeping control, without having to give any commitment. He kisses her in the dark, when no one is around, and messes around with her, but won’t commit to her ... she loves him more than anything, and will do anything for him.

Travis denied he treated Jodi badly and told Sky that he "adored" Jodi. Never mind that he was seeing another woman at the same time. But Sky stuck to her guns and responded:

She was being treated horribly, you weren’t beating her physically, but you were emotionally. Travis, with love, you are a heart predator. You take great joy in making women fall for the T-dogg. You laugh about what you can get away with. It would scare me to death if my little sister liked you, in fact I wouldn’t allow it.

Seriously, if even your own friends are telling you that you're not treating a woman right, then you're probably not. I don't know what Travis's issues with women were -- he clearly had them. And I don't know why Jodi stuck around to be treated like crap -- until one day she snapped. And she did snap -- whether it was out of self defense or not.

Unfortunately, a lot of people -- men and women -- get caught up in the fantasy of what a lover or spouse can be and lose track of the reality. If Jodi had been able to get over the idea that Travis would change, or that she didn't deserve better, or that he truly loved her deep down, or whatever, none of this would have ever happened. But she wasn't.

Being a jerk isn't a reason to be viciously killed, but you certainly increase your chances of it. It's karma. What you put out into this world is what you get back. And Travis wasn't putting out much good -- at least with Jodi.

Do you think Travis contributed to what happened?

 

 

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