Rehtaeh Parsons' Rapists May Be Outed After Her Suicide -- But Should They Be?

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Rehtaeh ParsonsSay what you want about Anonymous, but the hackers have done some fabulous things since they started taking over the Internet. And now the secret group is getting involved in the heartbreaking case of Rehtaeh Parsons, the Canadian teen who hanged herself after being gang-raped by four teenage boys. They've made contact with the alleged perpetrators, and from what they say, the boys are just as creepy as you'd expect.

So what's next? Should Anonymous out these kids for the whole world to shame?

My gut response, as a woman and mother of a daughter, is yes. Absolutely. These sickos should have their names plastered on every headline on every website in every country for what they did to this girl a year and a half ago.

After all, as one Anonymous hacker said, these rapists are showing no shame for what they've done, even after Rehtaeh's heartbroken parents were forced to take their beloved 17-year-old daughter off life support:

Some of us have had contact with the boys in question. And yeah, they're still not denying anything. One of them post (sic) on Facebook a day ago that yes, she was drunk and throwing up when he had sex with her, but she wanted him to.

Sick, right?

And these monsters are currently free, as are the kids who bullied Rehteah, calling her a "slut," texting and Facebooking her daily asking for sex.

They're out there, and Rehtaeh is gone.

An outing by the world's most famous Internet hackers seems to be just what they have coming to them.

The mother in me is angry. The journalist in me, on the other hand, is uneasy.

I come from the world of newspapers, from a pre-Internet world where there was more time to fact check and, ironically, less of a need. Once upon a time an article's reach was limited to subscribers and newsstand purchasers.

Now an article can go viral. Just. Like. That.

A life can be ruined in seconds.

If it's the life of a rapist, my gut still tells me that I shouldn't care.

But what if they get it wrong? What if the names linked to this horror aren't the right ones ... and the lives of innocent children are destroyed?

Would that be any better than what happened to Rehtaeh Parsons? Maybe not traumatic in the same way, but certainly not a win.

So what's the answer?

Do we empower Anonymous to move ahead on the hope that they get it right? Or do we sit, powerless, worrying that these boys will get away with the unthinkable?


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Carme... Carmen8706

I think they relinquished their right to privacy when the posted pictures of themselves committing rape. It's not like they even tried to hide what they did. What does it matter if more people know?

kysma... kysmama08

They're all over freaking facebook posting things about it so they obviously do not give a damn that people know who they are or that some poor girl who won't get to live her life is gone because of 4 little ass bags and the rest of the bitch ass bullies out there. I'm a mom to a 5 year old girl and if someone ever did to her what they did to that girl there would be nothing that would stop me from outing them and making their lives a living hell!

TheTr... TheTruthTeller

They weren't very concerned with Rehtaeh Parsons' privacy, were they? From what I understand, Anonymous has confirmed these rapists names with multiple people who know them, so I doubt they have it wrong.

nonmember avatar IslandMomOf4

Karma is a bitch! We have a right to know if there's a rapist in our childs school or in our neighborhood. Don't want to be outed?? Don't be a douchebag!!

ruby_... ruby_jewel_04

I say go for it. They had no concern or regard for this poor girls life. They need to pay for what they did. If anonymous wants to out them so the world knows what scum they are, I say good. the have no conscience, and no remorse. It's sick.

nonmember avatar Common.Sense

You don't get a "right to privacy" if you are a goddamn RAPIST. The only thing a rapist deserves is to have his balls gnawed off by rodents prior to getting the electric chair!!! The fact that you can have ANY sympathy for these monsters, who RAPED A GIRL AND BULLIED HER TO DEATH, says some pretty *awful* things about you, Sager!!!!

abra819 abra819

Out the mother f*ckers

ZamEnt25 ZamEnt25


She was RAPED! Then BULLIED for the rape!  If our justice system can't be on top of the cutting edge technology that is out there, I say why not have their help. They helped put away guys from the rape crew, who were notorious for being rapists, while their town did nothing!

nonmember avatar Guest

Go for it, it is the only way to stop this from happening to any other girls. There is something seriously wrong with these teens, those who raped and those who joined in.

Tangl... TangledBlue

Wait, what?  You're worried Anonymous might have the wrong perpetrators despite the fact that there is photographic evidence and they have contact?  And despite the fact that the boys are still bragging about the rape as if they're some big studs for raping a vomiting, drunk girl?  I truly do not undersand your point here Jeanne.  Anonymous has a vested interested in making sure they get it right every time because if they don't, they lose all power.  So I'm not worried about that.  Those boys should be outed and I wish Anonymous wasn't waiting.  Their names should be posted everywhere for all the world to see and they should be shamed over and over so they get a little taste of what they did to that.  I am not usually one for vigilante justice but I'm tired, so damn tired of boys getting away with rape and the adults around them letting it happen.  This girl, and so many others, were failed again & again and it's enough.

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