Do You Curse in Front of Your Kids? (VIDEO)

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Moms Matter Google Hangout

Do you swear in front of your kids?

Jacqueline Burt wrote a post defending cursing in front of kids here on The Stir recently, and it generated a LOT of conversation.

So for this week's Moms Matter Google Hangout, we decided to ask other writers from The Stir if they agree with Jacqueline. See what they had to say after the jump!

I have to say, I was surprised that these moms all felt cursing in front of the kids isn't that big of a deal.

For me, cursing in front of my kids right now is a big no-no. They're 6 and 8 years old and I know that my kindergartner son in particular wouldn't be able to resist repeating a curse word to his friends if he overheard me say it. I don't want to be the mom who gets called in for a special meeting because her kid that taught all of his classmates the f-bomb, you know what I mean?

I realize that my kids will hear the words at some point anyway, and I know from having raised two stepdaughters already that once they become teenagers, cursing will become a popular act of rebellion. But I want to try to be the kind of person now that I hope they'll be someday. I can't ask them to watch their mouths if I'm not watching mine.

That said, I don't really mind if other moms let the occasional curse word slide in front of their kids, and I definitely mess up every once in a while in front of my own children. But I feel guilty when it happens. It was interesting to realize that in this chat, anyway, I'm in the minority. These moms think a limited amount of cursing in front of the kids is no big deal.

Now tell me -- what do you think?

 

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Melan... MelanieJK

Cursing can quickly become a bad habit that people do not because they choose to but because they can no longer choose not to.    I don't want to raise crude kids so I choose to control it around them and make it clear that I don't consider it acceptable when I occassionally fail.    They can choose when/where it's appropriate when they're grown but they need to have it under control in order for it to be a choice.

Lovin... LovinJerseyMama

F*ck yes I curse in front of my kids :) And they know better than to repeat bad words. Better for them to learn inappropriate language and its boundaries now than when they're getting detention for using it in school. We do not abuse bad language aside from the occasional stubbed toe or idiot driver though. My parents cursed in front of my sister and I but we knew we weren't allowed to say those words under penalty of a slapped ass. I still don't curse around my parents unless I'm extremely angry. I find curse words super tacky when they are abused. Dropping an F bomb here or there is fine. Dropping the F bomb every other word- not so hot. 

nonmember avatar IslandMomOf4

They'll repeat what they hear at some point...I found out the hard way. When my now teenager was a toddler, she would routinely call other drivers a dumbass :/ it was always in context too. It made me feel bad! I try to keep the language clean but I'm no where near perfect and things do slip.

mamma... mammadeeder

I do swear in front of my children. Generally it's when I'm beyond frustrated at something and it subconsciously slips. My three year old has let a swear word slip a few times, but always yells at me when I do. He knows it's wrong, and I'd rather him hear the words from me than someone else

Nancy... NancyJ422

No no no - before my son was born I was free and easy with the swearing but after he was born I stopped because I don't think it's "cute" when a toddler swears because that's what he or she hears around the house. 


If you do and your child never picked it up or repeated you more power to you. It was easier and made more sense to me to curtail my language. 

easun... easunshine

Cursing so quickly makes an educated person sound like a fool. Nothing drives me nuttier than someone trying to make a point who includes cursing in their argument. It just sounds bad. I don't want my kids to think conversation has to include cursing to be good conversation. I'd rather they think the opposite. What they end up thinking is up to them, but I won't be the one filling in their vocabulary blanks.

Doomy234 Doomy234

I think that if a person wants to curse in front of their kids, it is their own decision. But it should be their responsibility to teach them what words are bad to say in public. Just the other day I saw a young child (2 or 3 years old) at the store throwing a tantrum and he started screaming such profane words that I was shocked that he was saying them, let alone using them in the proper context and knowing pretty much what they mean. This little boy yelled "F**k you B*tch!" multiple times at the top of his lungs. Talk about embarrassing for that mother...

Keya25 Keya25

I slip sometimes and i feel guilty BUT i feel worse when he tells ME "Dont say that mommy!" He knows what the bad words are but i try not to say them infront of him. Thank Goddness he knows not to say them at the age of 3, even though he has tested in the past.

KayRay KayRay

I let curse words slip all the time in front of my kids and I always have. I have never had a problem with them repeating them. I explained they are adult words and when they are adults they can use them. 


 

nonmember avatar Anonny Mouse

I don't swear myself at all. So absolutely not.

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