President Obama Calls Attorney General a Hottie Like He Doesn’t Even Know Better


Kamala HarrisOne of the things that I have always disliked about President Barack Obama is his evenness. He always seems to know the right thing to say at the right time and it always struck me as disingenuous. Despite the fact that I voted for him twice and generally really like him, this always just stuck under my skin. I guess I don't need to worry about this any more.

In introducing the California Attorney General Kamala Harris at a fundraiser he praised her intelligence and intellectual merit and then he added: "[She] also happens to be, by far, the best looking attorney general in the country." Everyone laughed and he followed it with: "It’s true! C'mon."

Oh HILARIOUS, Mr. President. Locker room talk in public at a dinner where one of the few women was apparently on the menu? This just seems way out of line to me. And not just because it was "sexist."

It was sexist, to be sure. Commenting on a woman's appearance is never a great call. I mean, what if she were fat? Or ugly? Would it be OK to say it then? "She happens to be the fattest woman in the country!" Would they have found that so amusing? Because that IS the flip side of this. If commenting on her beauty is OK, then so is commenting on her lack of it.

It's more than that, too.

Harris' looks have stymied her for much of her career. They have created a barrier and led to accusations of her sleeping her way to her position, among other insults hurled her way. Yes, she is lovely. No doubt about it. But there are so many other facets of who she is and yet her looks always make the front page. If this were reversed -- were she unattractive or overweight -- we would all cry foul. But in this case, it's a compliment. Lighten up you bitter feminists. Right?


It is inappropriate to comment on a person's looks in an official way. I would not call Chris Christie "fat" (even though it is a fact) at a state dinner any more than I would call Scott Brown a hottie (even though that is also a fact). It is laughable. Absurd, even. So why is it OK if a man does it to a woman?

Let's say for instance, that I HAD complimented Brown's looks to his face. First I might be called a desperate slut (I am married, after all). People would have said I was inappropriately flirting. But Brown would have shrugged it off and been amused, maybe dismissing it with "I'm taken" and flashing his wedding ring. Meanwhile, Harris (as a single woman) does not have the luxury. When a man "compliments" a woman in that way, it changes the way the men in the room look at her (and the women, too). 

Suddenly, everyone is saying: How pretty IS she? It's a set up. That's just sexual politics. Like them or hate them, that's the way it goes.

This was vastly inappropriate and a man in Obama's position ought to know better. Shame on him. This was a very disappointing move.

Did you think Obama was wrong for focusing on Harris' looks?


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Histo... HistoryMamaX3

Very wrong. But I've come to expect things like this from him.

Sadly, the 'feminists' out there that SHOULD be all up in arms about it will ignore it- showing they aren't really for women's rights, more just for show and damaging 'the other side.' *rolls eyes* Hypocrites.

Nicole Jordan

I think that if it was a super attractive male he would've commented on his handsomeness in turn.

D.j. Lord

another special olympics moment from barry

wamom223 wamom223

I dislike Obama a lot and anyone that has seen me comment before knows that.  But this is insane.  All I heard during 2008 was how sexy Obama was.  Even this last election he referred to himself as eye candy.  You liberals are the ones that tried to make this okay but now are trying to flip the script.  It sickens me that this gets the left up in arms but the fact that Americans died in Benghazi and we still don't have any answers doesn't seem to bother them at all.  Feminist have to be about the dumbest group of idiots that we have in this country!!!!!! 

Mrscj... Mrscjones

I'm not understanding the issue he complimented her on everything her intellect as well as her beauty and if any woman have an issue with the fact that she's smart beautiful and single that is their problem

Sandy Daigle

so what if he complimented her on her beauty beautiful women have to deal with that all of the time if the comment bothered her then she should be the one to call him on it not any one else!!!!!!

D Jean Benway

Oh give me a break!He has complimented young men. Pretty sad when being nice gets people get in such a uproar.

Carol Mickelsen

Yes it was sexist and the wrong thing to do entirely.

Carol Mickelsen

I never thought Obama was sexy. In any other professional environment commenting on a woman's looks at a public event is in poor taste, just as it would be for a woman to comment on a man's looks. Could you imagine the scandal if Hilary or any other woman holding public office commented on the looks of a peer in public, even after saying how talented they were? People would be outraged. Yet it is okay for a man to do? I think not.

nonmember avatar Anonymous

Oh for God's sake, he just said that she was good looking. He didn't say he wanted to rip her clothes off and do her right then and there! Get over it!

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