'Pregnant Man' Divorce Is Officially the Craziest Case Ever

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Pregnant Man Thomas BeatieEver heard of a judge telling a couple they can't divorce? That's what's happened to the so-called Pregnant Man, Thomas Beatie, and wife Nancy. The couple who separated last spring have been told they can't divorce because transgender Thomas and wife married in Hawaii, a state that doesn't recognize same sex marriage. The way the courts tell it; they were never married to begin with!

So what's a couple to do? Throw up their hands and say, well, that was easy, now we don't have to pay for a costly divorce? Nope, the Pregnant Man and his wife, who technically want a divorce, are now fighting ... for the right to be married.

Good for them!

It might sound counter-intuitive to most folks. Wouldn't you want to just save yourself the aggravation? And the money?

OK, sure, maybe. But what about the principle of things? Does money and aggravation really matter if you're folding on your strongest beliefs?

This is where you separate the wheat from the chafe, so to speak. Plenty of people will shoot their mouths off about a particular issue on Facebook, but if someone asks them to put a little time or God forbid their own money into it, they balk.

Not the Beaties. This is their lives, and they're not going down without a fight.

At the time of their wedding, the transgender Thomas had legal documents showing he'd transitioned from female to male, but as we've all learned from his three highly publicized pregnancies, that didn't include what's known as "bottom surgery" in trans circles (basically he kept his reproductive organs). A court in Arizona, where the Beaties live, contends that means their marriage was actually a same sex union.

Since Hawaii doesn't recognize same sex marriage, that means there is no marriage. And if there is no marriage, there is no divorce for the pregnant man.

For a couple that just wants to be over with this marriage thing, it would probably end there.

It says a lot about the Beaties that they're willing to put themselves through a lot of court time to fight this. Nancy says that essentially the courts have now made her children bastards (her word, not mine) by erasing their marriage, making the fight somewhat personal. But this is also a fight on behalf of every transgender person in America.

The outcome of this case could set precedent for the approximately 1 percent of the population who identifies as trans (which may not sound like a lot, but 1 percent of 313,914,040 is huge, folks!). If the court has to recognize the Beaties' marriage in order to OK their divorce, it can provide protections for thousands of other folks who worry that their own unions could be contested despite legal documentation.

Giving up now could save the Beaties a lot of time and money now, but fighting the good fight and winning is something they can carry with them for the rest of their lives.

What would you do in their situation? Would you stand up and fight or just accept the easy path?

 

Image via Getty Images/Patrik Stollarz

human rights, marriage equality

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miche... micheledo

Honestly, I don't think it says a lot about them. He/she received so much publicity and more with every pregnancy. Kind of seemsblike a way to continue to stay in the news.



And yes, it reall yannoys me. I remember al lthe headlines about a MAN being pregnant. No a man was not pregnant. A woman was, a female. She just happens to want to be a man, but she isn't. It was not some scientific miracle like it was often touted. It was a woman doing what woman have done for centuries.

Melan... MelanieJK

I think they have too much time on their hands and not enough electrons firing in their brains.


Let people who want to be married pick up this fight and principle. 

Mrscj... Mrscjones

Thanks michel at the end of day they just want to extend their 15 minutes who fight to get married when you trying to get a divorce?

Serab... Serabelle

I have no issue with transgender, or transgender getting married, and if that was what they were fighting for, I'd support it. But it seems like a way.to stay relevant to me. Also, I can't, in my own opinion, consider this person a man, since they have all female plumbing. Our gender is defined by what's between our legs, so to me if this person had changed that, I'd support it. But you are still a female, just one with no boobs and facial hair.

Eddie... EddiesMama83

Uh, who cares? This is the kind of crap GLTQB whatever marriage/union/crappola thing is all about. The only reason they want a divorce is so someone can get alimony. 

Bird16_J Bird16_J

One of the stupidest things I've read in awhile! And I wish people would stop calling "him" a "man" unless "his" uterus is COMPLETELY removed, then "he" is still a she! There's nothing special or miraculous about a WOMAN having a child which is what SHE is until she has EVERYTHING removed!

Ruthanna Wade Hardwick

Attention whores. The last article I read about this woman/man was because they were upset they couldnt be a breast feeding coach or some such junk because ony WOMEN can be those. So he/she is a woman when it suits her and then a man when it suits him.

TXMOM... TXMOM1980

they are not "legally" and they use donor sperm (s)he is not the father, (s)he is the mother. SO they are broken up like any other same sex couple.

kerij... kerijeanbean

This is one of those things that really makes me shake my head and wonder why people are so crazy.  Just go on with your lives.  The fact that they are now going to fight to be married just to have a divorce sounds like the stupidest thing in the world.

nonmember avatar smoochcookie

She has a problem with her kids being "bastards", but she doesnt have a problem with their "father" birthing them. Its so bs. They just want to be in the news some more. The whole thing is ridiculous. They did nothing special to deserve the attention they get.

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