32-Year-Old Man Finally Adopted by the Mom of His Dreams (VIDEO)

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32 year old man adoptedIf it seems weird to you that someone would get adopted at 32-years-old, you're probably a person who's grown up with parents (whether they were in your life or not). Maurice Griffin, yes, 32, did not. In the early 80s, Griffin was spotted by a couple at an orphanage near their Sacramento home. Griffin, who's biracial, was apparently smiling ear-to-ear when Lisa Godbold and her late husband saw him; and they felt that he was the perfect complement to their family, as Lisa was white, her husband was black, and their two children were biracial, as well. It seemed like fate.

"We were best friends," Griffin said of his brothers. "We'd run around, we did mischievous things and fun things. It was a good time."

But when Griffin was 13, things fell apart. He had been living with the family for four happy years, and he was two months away from being officially adopted, when a social worker visited the home and threw everyone for a loop.

See, Godbold and her husband believed in spanking. They spanked their two biological sons, but not Griffin. Griffin, however, wanted to be disciplined like the "real" children of the family -- he wanted to be spanked, too. Griffin recently told KSWB: "I wanted to be treated like a real son. Their sons got spanked and I didn't."

So, when a social worker visited the home, he told them that that was what was going to happen.

"I told her they were going to be spanking me. She told her superiors and her superiors told her I had to be taken out." And one day, taken out he was. Their family was torn apart.

Now, let me clarify here. I do NOT believe in spanking. I would never, ever in a million years spank my child. But this situation is incredibly unique.

From what I can gather, it doesn't seem like Godbold and her husband were abusing their kids. It sounds like the got a spank on the butt when they misbehaved (which, again, I am personally against) -- yet they didn't lay a hand on Griffin. They were honest about their form of discipline, and even though Maurice wanted to be spanked, they didn't. And the fact that Maurice wanted to be spanked is heartbreaking in and of itself. What child wants that? He just wanted to belong, and to feel like a "real" kid of theirs. There's so much more to this story -- it can't be cut and dried.

According to Godbold, she and her husband fought to keep Griffin, but was told she could lose her biological children, too. So Griffin was taken away and the case was closed.

But years later, the two were reunited via social media, and Griffin still wanted to be adopted to make things with the only mother he's ever known "official." The two are headed to a court in San Diego today to do so. 

Of course the social workers in this situation were just doing their job. When you hear "spank", a red flag goes off. But clearly, if Griffin still wants to be adopted years and years later, there wasn't, for lack of a better word, abuse going on. Perhaps things should have been investigated further, so Griffin didn't have to spend the following years bouncing around between foster homes.

The reunion between Griffin and Lisa is incredibly touching, and you really should watch it. And it just goes to show: You're never too old to be adopted.

Do you think Griffin should have been removed from this home?


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prinz... prinzesa_edith

how sweet, i was getting emotional watching that.

nonmember avatar MammaMel

Agree with you. I don't believe in spanking, but I also don't believe it's a reason to take children away. There are different ways to raise children, and just because someone does it differently doesn't mean it's wrong. This is so sad (but happy at the same time).

redK8... redK8blueSt8

So the social worker, imposing her own prejudices towards spanking, yanked this little boy out of the only home he ever really had, and he got tossed around the rest of his childhood in foster care. Well that's just great, thank God at least that he wasn't disciplined in a way that some people disagree with, that would have been tragic.

nonmember avatar kaerae

@redK8... - It's not her personal prejudice, It's law in nearly every state that foster parents CAN NOT discpline foster children physically, because they are NOT their children. If an exception is made for one, then it is made for all, and that is a bad idea. If the boy were that important to them, perhaps they should have just agreed to not spank any child in their home. They could have easily kept him then. Bottom line is: The state cannot take children into custody and allow them to be hit, it is too great a liability. Because of this family's stubbornness, they lost the right to foster children, and that's too bad. They chose their right to spank their own kids over keeping this other boy.

Shawnna LeMay

AND people wonder whats wrong with the world...and why are youth are so fed up...

Jenni Lee Clark

He thought he needed to be disciplined like the other two boys .. he felt he belonged and felt he also needed to be disciplined the same way. He didnt know that he want allowed to be equal by the law. If his 'mom' had told him, its giving non age appropriate information out.
The thing is when you are that age, you say how you feel not how it should be said. I think they shouldve all sat down as a family with the social worker after the social worker speaking to the children separately and just kept an eye on, not pulling him out of the only home he felt as thought he belonged!! 

gamma4 gamma4

He was not spanked but the family was trying to adopt him...he was happy that they would make him feel part of the family an be treated as such when adopted ...since he said what would happen upon being part of the family social worker flipped I guess

nonmember avatar Christie

I think its sad that spanking is a form of abuse in this world. This child did NOT want to be abused. Instead he saw the LOVE and DISCIPLINE that the parents were giving the biological children and wanted to be a part of that. That is what is wrong with the world today, distorted views on proper discipline and abuse. it's in the bible...but hey let's not believe in spanking but post half naked pictures of twisted celebrities on your page. Idocracy at it's finest.

masastan masastan

That is incredibly sweet. And OP, there is NOTHING wrong with a spanking and it SHOULD NOT set off a red flag; I was spanked as a child but not physically abused nor do I have any emotional or mental problems from it. The 'abuse' that I endured came from the words of my parents; they showed me no respect for me as an individual person with feelings, thoughts, and beliefs of my own. To them, I failed them because I don't think the way that they do, I don't wear enough make up or dress a certain way. I have not ever been good enough for them. They were never happy with me having any of my children, my career choices, or my choice to divorce a man for abuse and neglect that they didn't like. Spanking is not abuse and it is an appropropriate form of discipline; but not all children need to be spanked and not all parents should use it (if they can't control their emotions).

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