Teacher Who Tried to Save Woman From Her Abuser Sadly Should Have Just Walked Away (VIDEO)

The question as to whether you should step in to help a woman during a domestic violence assault is a controversial one right now, following the pictures that a photographer published of a woman being beaten by her boyfriend in front of her child. Instead of stepping in to stop the assault, the photographer continued snapping away. Many criticized this, but the photographer says that police had told her that stepping in usually escalates things -- and puts her in harm's way too. That appears to be true -- at least in the case of preschool teacher Victoriano "Mo" Moises Byrne-Gonzales, who ran to help a woman getting punched around by her boyfriend. The boyfriend allegedly then stabbed him to death.

Byrne-Gonzales, an art teacher and expectant father, was reportedly working on his car when he heard shouts from elsewhere in the mobile home park where he lived in New Mexico. He and his brother-in-law, Santiago Cordova, said they saw a "male pounding a female up against the wall" and her crying, "You're hurting me!" so they ran to the woman's aid. Minutes later, Byrne-Gonzales was stabbed in the neck. He died. Cordova was stabbed in the back, but survived.

And apparently the woman, Natasha Romero, remains with her abuser -- because she's visiting him in jail. Recorded jailhouse phone conversations picked up the usual abuser modus operandi: Blaming the victim. "I made the ultimate sacrifice for you," Adrian Gonzales, who was arrested on first degree murder charges, told his girlfriend. (Yes, there's two Gonzaleses in this story.) He also said: "You better love me for 30 f***ing years of my life," while Romero cried and apologized. That's right, SHE apologized.

The boyfriend's attorney claims that the two men were "bullies" and it was all self-defense. Boy, nothing this guy does is his fault.

At any rate, it's a terrible lesson learned -- stepping in to help out a woman in a domestic violence situation could get you killed. And, at the end of the day, many of them just return to their abuser anyway. Tragic and sad.

Would you have stepped in?

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CPN322 CPN322

I would if I had a weapon to defend myself with.

Doomy234 Doomy234

I would step in... The first time. If I saw it happen again to the same woman, I would just call the cops. There's little worth in helping someone who wont help themselves by leaving a douche-hat abusive spouse/partner.

the4m... the4mutts

Seeing as how I ALWAYS have mace, 2 knives, and sometimes a 9mm on me, yes, I will always step in if I see something like that

tuffy... tuffymama

This is why God made guns.

Vegeta Vegeta

I've sprayed many a drunken domestic brawl where I work. People are such losers.

Flori... Floridamom96

The4mutts, you're my hero!

chigi... chigirl1228

Sadly she will be the next victim.

Kediset Kediset

man this story just sucks so much... one guy lost his life and another could have... to stop the abuse... AND THAT WOMAN APOLOGIZES TO HER ABUSER?! There is so much wrong with this picture... ugh... no wonder nobody wants to help someone who's being abused because this sort of thing just might happen. Smh... all for nil...

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