Military Spouse of the Year Nominee & Navy Mom Has Some Inspiring Words of Wisdom

us navy pilotA military mom in Washington state is up for a big honor. Ever since 2008, the Armed Forces Insurance company has handed out an award for Military Spouse of the Year, and one of 2013's nominees is Lori Volkman, a mom and writer married to a Navy pilot who at one point was deployed for a year and a half. What makes Lori stand out? She started a blog called Witty Little Secret -- A Deployment Diary of Another Sort. In it, she shares relatable stories that most spouses of military people will read and say to themselves, Yup. Been there.

Here are some of the best excerpts from Lori's blog.


On the moment her husband Randy left for deployment:

You hear that click in the door. And it is like a door closing on something. You think that's possibly the last time you're gonna see them.

On explaining to her young son how long Daddy would be gone:

He sort of had this moment where he finally understood how long a year was. He did what I didn't expect, which was he just collapsed on the floor.

On realizing the importance of having your own identity:

I almost cried. It was as if I knew I would never again be a lawyer, a wife, a mother, a military spouse, a daughter, a friend, a blogger, or even a woman. It was the moment I realized that, despite my best efforts to be something else, I have always been a writer first.

On the irony of being nominated for Military Spouse of the Year:

My husband thinks it’s really hilarious because I write stories about how hard deployment and reintegration is on a marriage and I advocate for military spouse careers since the military messes with those, too. He doesn’t think I’m the model military spouse that way. But I think it’s fitting. I think I’m prevailing in those areas because of the networks and the support that the military has allowed me to be a part of, not in spite of it.

On her husband's return:

Two years ago my husband left for fifteen months. He went to military training, and then he went straight to the Middle East for a year. I understood when he left that it would be a journey we’d both have to take alone, but it wasn’t until he came home that I realized combat and deployment were experiences I would never really comprehend. There were many nights after he came home that we sat motionless in our own silence, even though we knew there was much to be said.

Check out Lori's blog for more on her life and how she copes as a military spouse ... and as herself.

Do you find these quotes relatable?


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