Be careful what you post online. Even those uplifting little quotes about love or life can be "interpreted" any which way by the media should you ever make the news. The husband of murdered Staten Island mom Sarai Sierra is probably regretting a series of posts he made on Instagram that the media is now saying is proof of "marital strife." Sarai was found dead in Istanbul after she went there on a solo vacation. Her husband, Steven, posted before she left: "Don’t cheat in relationship(s), if you are not happy then just leave." He also posted, "A real relationship is where you tell each other everything & anything. No secrets, no lies." It's the kind of stuff I see on Facebook all of the time.
The media has had a field day with Sarai's death. I've read that she had sex with a man she'd met on Instagram the day before her death. I also read that the man denies this. The police says he is not a suspect and his DNA doesn't match DNA found on the scene. Yet the media takes every opportunity to describe the man as the "one she had sex with."
I've also read that she was seen with "criminal elements" before her death. Have you been to a foreign country? People follow you around all of the time, wanting to "help you," wanting to be your "guide" -- yammering at you and trying to part you with your money. Just because she was seen with certain people doesn't mean she was really with these people.
And now these messages -- which could mean that Steven maybe suspected his wife of cheating -- or it could mean the exact opposite. That he feels he and Sarai had a good relationship where neither one would cheat. (Another report claims that Steven's brother accused Sarai of wanting to cheat, but at this point, I don't know what to believe.) The day after Sarai left for Turkey, Steven posted a saying on his Instagram account:
Good relationship(s) don’t just happen. They take time, patience and two people who truly want to be together.
He could be describing his relationship -- after all, the two were in constant touch during her time there, he's said.
The media certainly wants to make it out like Sarai must have been up to no good to end up where she ended up. Which is just unfair. No one knows what happened. Since her iPad and phone were missing, it could have easily been a robbery. Why so much determination to blame her?! I guess it's just not a good headline otherwise.
I can't imagine going on vacation, getting killed, and then being ripped apart in the press as an adulterer because I made the "mistake" of meeting up with someone I'd met online (people can meet up for reasons other than sex), and my husband wrote a few things on Instagram. We should all just wait for the facts to come out.
Do you think Steven's online posts mean anything?
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