Fashionista Commits Suicide & ‘Frenemy’ Who Told Her to Kill Herself Is Banned From Funeral

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Ashley Riggitano
The story behind Ashley Riggitano's suicide isn't just heartbreaking -- it's bizarrely fascinating. The pretty 22-year-old "fashionista", as she's being branded, jumped off New York City's George Washington Bridge on her birthday, leaving behind a lengthy suicide note written "in girly cursive" on loose-leaf paper. The note was left behind in a Louis Vuitton bag that also contained the prescription drugs Adderall and Klonopin, and it banned five "frenemies" from her funeral. As more details have come out, we've learned that Ashley, who interned for famed jewelry designer Alex Woo, exhibited some strange and erratic behavior in the past, and she was recently involved in a really awful, extremely quarrelsome Facebook feud with a few "friends". One friend, Alison Tinari, wrote to Ashley: "Go try to kill yourself on Xanax again, you unstable loser. Go f--k yourself and never speak to me again."

The online fight between Tinari and Riggitano was reportedly initiated by Riggitano, and it stemmed from Tinari's friendship with Riggitano's boyfriend, Drew Hassenbuttel. Tinari told the New York Post: "It’s really horrible what happened. I feel really bad for her family. It’s crazy. I feel really bad for her. I never went after her; she went after me." Tinari said that she barely knew Riggitano before the exchange. She also added: "The only thing I’m ashamed of is what I said about her overdosing on Xanax. I shouldn’t have said that."

Clearly, Riggitano wasn't mentally stable. Various reports about her strange behavior and supposed previous suicide attempt are swirling around everywhere. So, maybe that's all the more reason not to taunt her, or get swept up into an extremely nasty online feud with her. (Tinari reportedly told Riggitano that she knew about her previous suicide attempt.)

What Tinari said is one of the most awful things I've ever heard -- anyone who tells another person to kill themselves has serious issues, but still. The blame can't solely be placed on these "frenemies" for Riggitano's death, just as the DJs in the Kate Middleton prank can't be held solely accountable for the nurse who committed suicide.

But I think there's a moral here: Be nice. Or just back off. If Tinari would have just kept quiet and worried about herself, she wouldn't have to live the rest of her life knowing she played a role -- however small -- in another human being's death. That's an awfully big cross to bear over a stupid Facebook argument.

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wamom223 wamom223

My sister had an ex friend follow her around a store screaming, "I hope your baby dies" when my sister was pregnant.  I can not say how badly I wanted to beat that bitch down but I knew it would just make things more difficult for my sister so I just gave her my support.  Two years later that ex friend had a still born baby and my sister and I were devastated for her.  No matter what she'd done we wouldn't wish the loss of a child on anyone but I've always though that maybe that girl was more tortured by what she said to my sister after what happened than anything we could have done to get back at her.  You should never, no matter what, wish death on anyone.  Even though it sounds like this girl was unstable the other girl could have ignored her without throwing out such an awful comment that will probably haunt her forever.

Brie Stoll

well... " go kill yourself " is a pretty often tossed around term lately , even in songs.


Sorry no sympathy here. I do feel bad for Alison though.

nonmember avatar Momof2boys

How sad. That poor girl, how desperate must you be to jump off a bridge and on her birthday, my gosh. It's hard to have sympanty for the girl who took the bait in the Facebook fight. Even if the dead girl started it how difficult is it to delete a message or just roll your eyes and walk away. It sounds like these girls never left high school. Life is too short for foolish crap like that.

Frida266 Frida266

Its those drugs.  They're handed out like candy.  Don't give them to your kids and don't take them.  They're very dangerous.

Amanda Marie Mahrling

Frida266 Maybe you shouldn't be making blanket statements on things you know nothing about. My 32 year old husband takes adderall. Are you say he and his doctor are wrong?

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