Betrayed Husband Sends Cheating Wife's Sexts to All Her Lover's Coworkers

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Let's say you're going through your spouse's phone messages ... because, ya know, some folks do that ... and lo and behold, you find pics of your spouse in some very compromising positions with someone else. Would you a) confront your spouse; b) demand you and your spouse go to therapy; c) kick your spouse out; d) forgive and forget; orrrrr e) forward the pictures to everyone at your spouse's lover's place of employment. Well, if you're Paul Costello, a well-known photographer, you apparently do "e." Costello discovered the photos on his wife Sara's phone and realized she'd been having an affair with a guy named Luke Janklow, who happens to be one of the biggest literary agents in the world.

Paul must have had the contact information for Luke's entire agency, because reportedly he sent off the racy "sext" messages to everyone who worked there -- including Luke's father, a big agent named Mort. And reportedly two of his colleagues were so upset they quit their jobs and went elsewhere. (Highly unlikely, but okay ... )

So the question here is, do you ever have a right to mess with the job of the person who is messing with your spouse? I say no. First off, I've been in this guy's position. I understand the anger. But what good comes from emailing info about your spouse's cheating to the lover's office? Other than making YOU look foolish?

Duped spouses do a lot of things in the heat of anger and humiliation and THAT I totally understand. You throw clothes on the lawn. You slash tires. You call the other man/woman. Yeah, I get it. But you draw the line at trying to ruin that person's professional reputation. An affair is between you and your spouse. And maybe the other person and that person's spouse, if you're so inclined.

But it's NOT about you and your spouse and the other person's boss and colleagues. Seriously, no one cares that their colleague is having an affair anyway. Maybe they gossip about it, but everyone is going to continue about their job. Because no one wants to lose theirs.

The weird thing is, after all of that, Paul and Sara are still married; Sara's former lover, Luke, is now dating someone else. So ... a lot of brouhaha for nothing.

Have you ever taken revenge on a cheating partner?


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SIMom... SIMomSays

"You draw the line at ruining that person's professional reputation."

why? That person and your spouse didn't draw the line at "ruining" your life/marriage/lives of any children involved. They didn't think twice about your reputation and your spouse certainly didn't keep things between " the two of you."

Flori... Floridamom96

Perhaps people would be less likely to engage in such destructive behavior if they were some heavy accountability for their actions.

Pinst... Pinstripes4

What Floridamom96 said. I wouldn't do it, but I don't feel the need to chastise his actions.

tuffy... tuffymama

I guess we know why she cheated on the immature asshole. Not that I'm advocating cheating, because that is ALWAYS wrong, but DAMN. Dude proved what a dick he is. He might have taken the high road and come out better for it on the other side (I know because I did), but he chose to add another wrong to the equation.

Renee... ReneeN1979

If someone inserts themself into my marriage, and risks the home life that my children count on having, then they are asking me to fuck with their life right back.

suzted7 suzted7

WHat ReneeN1979 said......been there, done that.

nonmember avatar Doc Stone

+1 ReneeN & Floridamom!

I'd tell you my story, but there's no statute of limitations on murder where I live ;)


Flori... Floridamom96

I don't know how I would handle such a circumstance, but I firmly believe this is a societal issue. If our society placed the proper value on marriage and leveled the proper consequence for destroying a marriage we'd see fewer cheaters and fewer divorces. The institute of marriage should be held as the pinnacle of social achievement. Then men and women will feel natural and appropriate shame for such behavior. Perhaps the fear of such shame would deter cheating.

LostS... LostSoul88

I would forward it to everyone including myself so I have the evidence then back their shit up, leave it on the lawn and change the locks.

2nino... 2ninos4me

Im sorry but if someone destroys my marriage and life i would certainly let that know what pain and embarrasment feels like .'

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