Man Takes Wife's Last Name After Marriage & Gets Into Serious Trouble

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marriage lisenceYou wanna know something super hilarious? It's not really funny ha-ha, it's more like funny living-nightmare, but here it is: It's 2013 and we're close to finding the God particle, but heaven forbid a husband try to take his wife's last name because that, well, that's impossible. Take Lazaro Sopena's story. He wanted to honor his wife's Vietnamese heritage and take her last name of Dinh when they got married, but it proved to be a Herculean task.

What started out as a kind and loving gesture turned into an utter debacle that ended with Mr. Dinh suing the state of Florida.

He changed his name, got a new passport and Social Security card, and then went into a Tallahassee DMV to get a new license.

After a year had passed, Mr. Dinh got an official letter from Florida that accused him of getting a license fraudulently and suspended his license. Thinking it was just one big misunderstanding, Dinh called the DMV to straighten things out, but instead of an apology, he was told that "only women" change their names when they get married.

He sued the state after that and, thankfully, Florida dropped the charges. Now Dinh's on a mission.

I'm still bothered that it took so long and it took so much brain damage to fix. Now I want to change the law so it's clear for the next man.

Because really, really, it shouldn't be that hard for a man to break tradition and take his wife's name. Should be just the same as a woman taking her husband's name. They're just letters on forms! How did sexism even get involved in the first place?

As of now, only nine states allow men to take their spouse's name after marriage. The remaining require mounds of paperwork that takes months to process and, well, a large fee, of course.

Thanks, state governments!

Do you think it should be harder for a man to take his wife's name than for a woman to take her husband's?


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Rosamond Marie Yarborough

I had no idea that it was such a hassle. Of course men should be able to take their wives last names.

nonmember avatar Shannon

I'm kind of a traditionalist, but I don't think there's wrong with a man changing his name. I just think it's less important to kids that everyone in their family have the same last name, regardless of whose it is.

Tracys2 Tracys2

That's silly. One of my friends' husband took her name. There were good reasons. I have no idea how much hassle it was though. I don't get why we care who takes whose name.

wamom223 wamom223

This isn't the first time this has happened.  I don't think it should be hard for a man to take a wife's name.  Personally, I would NEVER ask that of my man; I hate my last name and he was adopted by his dad and his last name is a big deal to him, not to mention the drama we deal with that he's had two last names in his life.  I think what a couple decides on their last name should be their business and none of the governments.  I also think this sends an awful message.

prinz... prinzesa_edith

i wanted mine to take my last name, he almost did, but we had already named our first child with his last name and it would be a hassle to switch her name over too.

CPN322 CPN322

That is so weird! What the state did, not that he changed his name. A friend of mines husband took her name last name. It shouldn't be a big deal.

MyToe MyToe

What happens to couples that make up their own last name and both need to change them?

nurse... nursemama88

And a guy can change his name to Ochocinco and not an issue but it was fraud to take your wife's name....odd

Coles... Coles_mom

I used to work for a guy that took his wife's last name....his wife was the niece of a big-name politician, which was the only train he did, but didn't seem like it was a big deal for him.

Coles... Coles_mom

Reason...not weird.

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