Man Arrested for Brutal '50 Shades'-Inspired Sex With Girlfriend

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ropeA couple may have taken their passion for Fifty Shades of Grey a little too far. Steven Lock was charged with sexual assault after a tryst with a woman went terribly wrong. But Lock defended himself, claiming he and his lover had signed a "sex slave contract" -- just like Ana and Christian did! He admitted they were trying to copy a scene from Fifty Shades of Grey.

So. You probably want all the sordid details. Well all right then. According to testimony, the woman got a tattoo reading, "Property of Steven Lock." She says when she showed it to him, he disapproved of the design and, well, punished her. Lock claims, "It was supposed to be kinky fun, I didn't want her to cry."

Oh it's all fun and kinky games until someone cries, right?

Lock reportedly tied a rope around his lover's neck and beat her with a rope for about 15 seconds. His lover claims he hit her so hard she could hear the rope whistling and she screamed. Lock said in court that if she'd remembered to say the safety word ("red"), he would have stopped -- but she'd forgotten it. He says he eventually caught on that it was not-so-consensual (was it the screaming???) and stopped.

For her part, the woman acknowledged she consented to some roleplay, but did not expect it to get quite so rough. "I knew what was coming, but I didn't know he was going to use his whole force and whack me with it [the rope]." After the attack/tryst/whatever, she texted a friend to say, "He's got me chained up like a dog, whipping the shit out of me."

Anyway, Steven Lock got off -- I mean, was found not guilty. But anyway, the point is, because he convinced the court that he believed the beating was consensual, and because he did stop when he realized it wasn't, the jury decided it wasn't assault. Here's how his lawyer put it: "Is this an assault any more than a mistimed tackle in football?" I'm sorry sir, are you comparing forcefully whipping a woman with a freaking football tackle?!? Are you actually doing that? Really?!? Stand back while my head explodes!


(Hey look, I just made up a new emoticon.) Okay, I've calmed down now. I guess I'm a little unsettled over this case. I mean, how do you even define "consensual" when you're playing Fifty Shades? This case just gives me the creeps.

Do you think Lock went too far, or was it just a misunderstanding?


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jalaz77 jalaz77

I think they are idiots, both of them. It's a damn book people, there is a reason it's fiction. People cannot handle what that book portrays.

the4m... the4mutts

Just judging by what you wrote here, I think the judge made the right call. They needed more stringent rules, better communication, etc. I feel bad for the woman that she feels violated. The ruling shouldnt invalidate her feelings.

I just dont think the man is 100% to blame.

dirti... dirtiekittie

she didn't use the safety word! if you know half of anything about bdsm, you know it's consensual and there's always a way to make it stop. i don't know how you can get all tied up and then "forget" the safety word - it's one of the most important aspects of the roleplay. 

also, just how "tied up" was she that she could text a friend about it? and why was her first reaction to text a friend? this is just fishy to me.

DKs-Kat DKs-Kat

Amatures...they make the rest of the BDSM world look bad.

It was consentual but obviously not safe or sane.

Oh and Ana never signed the contract. Also said contract was not for her to be a slave but for her to be his submissive. And yes there is a difference.

Kathy Exmeyer

Christain would never hurt Ana. OK, he did one time, but she wanted to know how bad it could get. Some of the things that people are associating with Fifty Shades is so off track it isnt even funny.


Yenin Perez

Seriously! These type of crap is driving me raving lunatic. Just trying to give 50 S.O.G. a bad reputation. These kind of stuff are NOT for "normal" people, so those with an IQ lower that 200 please refrain yourselves from doing it. The way I see it, well this guy just wanted to give her a thrashing and used the "kinky sex" excuse to do it. And her, well she's not just smart enough.

Danene R Yokeum

I think that it was role playing gone wrong. It sounds like he and she both are inexperienced, and need some lessons on how to try things, or just leave it alone... Its unfortunate, but the judge made the right call.

nonmember avatar Penelope

My master commented on the fact that so many women are loving Fifty Shades and how he wished he'd have known them when he was younger. I told him that they may think they want it but the reality is much different. I've been whipped and left with bruises and broken skin but I think if them as battle wounds while many other women would call it abuse. My advice - start slowly.

hizwifie hizwifie

She asked for it....literally. I dont think he should have been arrested let alone charged. He realised she was not into it and stopped. And girl needs to learn to safe word. You dont forget that shit. 

nonmember avatar Darein

This is the exact reason I hate 50 Shades, I used to work professionally as a trainer to help people step into these types of relationships safely so that they do not end up in these types of situations where they just jump in thinking 'I read a book and know how the lifestyle works now' That is the dumbest thing you can ever do. Its almost on par of reading a book about skydiving and thinking you can just go out and jump from a plane, its the reason there are classes and those like me who can provide instruction in a safe and controlled environment. Seriously people take a note and learn from this that they lifestyle is not something you just walk into, you might think its cute to go to the local shop and buy a pair of fuzzy handcuffs and a blindfold but unless you have recieved the slightest bit of training from soneone who knows what they are doing all your going to do is cause damage, and leaving a mark on anothers skin without their desire for it is the height of failure.

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