Women 'Enjoy' Rape as Much as Their Rapists, Says Supreme Court Candidate

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judge Indonesia rapeA would-be judge in Indonesia has earned the ire of people across the world with his incendiary and incredibly misguided comments about rape. Daming Sanusi, a candidate for the Indonesian Supreme Court, isn't the first person in the world to make insane comments about rape. He is just the latest. This time, he said that rape victims enjoy being raped every bit as much as their rapists enjoy doing it.

Unbelievable, right? And after the horrific gang rape in India that caused international outrage, it seems especially egregious. Does anyone really think that poor woman "enjoyed" having her intestines ripped apart by a metal rod and being thrown from a moving bus? Because I sure don't.

It may seem like this is unique to developing countries. But it isn't. Between the Indian rape, the horrific boys in Steubenville, the comments by Todd Akin about "legitimate rape," and Richard Mourdock's "rape pregnancies are awesome" comment, I am doubting ALL men.

Memo to men across the world (who clearly need it): Rape is a violation. It's never OK. Pregnancies that result from rape are further violations. No woman "enjoys" being forced to perform sexual acts against their will.

I am not a woman who thinks all men are would-be rapists, it's true. But the number of men, this year especially, who have come out and shown that they have no understanding of rape is astounding. I never would have said that rape is something only a woman can get. But is it? Can men not understand the unbelievable violation of rape? Can they not get the way it destroys lives?

Maybe they can't.

Because there is simply no other explanation for the sheer number of asinine, crazy, over-the-top comments that have been made lately. By men. About rape. It's just too much.

Those boys clearly have a lot to learn about women. About sex. About violation and what it does to the soul. As a woman, I have had the unfortunate "privilege" of knowing many, many victims of rape. Some have been violent. Some have been drugged. Some have been questionable sexual encounters that a woman wasn't sure whether to call it rape -- "I said no, but I was so drunk, I may not have said it loudly enough." These are real events. Each and every person I know who has been violated this way is scarred by it. It doesn't just go away. She doesn't "enjoy" it.

Until men can get it clear that rape is rape and it's a violent crime, not one of sex, but of power and domination, then maybe they aren't fit to run for office.

It scares me to have people so lacking in empathy anywhere near a legislating or judicial body.

Do these comments make you irate, too?


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Monda... MondayisFired

Rape is not something that happens only to women, and it's not something done only by men.

The people making disgusting, misguided comments this year aren't making these comments simply because they are men. They are people who lack basic human empathy and the ability to think.

DebaLa DebaLa

Just what we need in the world: more ignorant and misogynist men in power allowed to ruin others' lives.

handy... handy0318

No, rape is not something that only a woman can get.  Most men, at least in the West, get that rape is a violent crime.  As MondayisFired said, men get raped as well.  We shouldn't allow the reportage of a few, albeit highly placed, individuals to color one's perception of an entire sex on any subject.

ethan... ethans_momma06

Am I irate at the comments you made in disparaging, sweeping comments about MEN?

Well, actually... yes. As a mother of two boys, that does sort of piss me off.

Of course, I think the particular vocal examples of seemingly 'pro rape' statements are deeply concerning and the people emitting them are more than ignorant (string of four letter words).

Flori... Floridamom96

Your comments make me irate. Women like you greatly contribute to the problems of our society with your anti-man sexism.

Angie... AngieHayes

Men have insane brains.

nonmember avatar kaerae

I guess if you would have included the word "Indonesion" in you title, you would have brought a lot less revenue to the site.

nonmember avatar Rev.Michael H

It only shows the world that even people from the court that doesent mean that they are inteligent. Show the word how some juge are ignorant

nonmember avatar blh

Holy shit where are these idiots coming from?? Its really making all men look bad.

nonmember avatar blh

So floridamom you're OK with men saying women liked getting raped but you're not on with someone saying many men are fuckibg clueless? I really hope you don't have sons, they'll grow up to be disrespectful assholes.

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