fishing ex revengeA jilted New Zealand woman made some money by selling the "secret" fishing coordinates of the louse who dumped her and then took off. Apparently he had some top secret and highly lucrative fishing spots that were worth about $2,500 to other fishermen. And while she claims it wasn't "revenge," that seems kind of hard to believe, no?

Breakup revenge is almost always a bad idea. Oh sure, it SEEMS smart. It seems brilliant, in fact. But it's almost always disappointing and sometimes even downright dangerous. A breakup sucks. And it sucks even more when the man is a jerk. But revenge doesn't help anyone.

In fact, it just makes you look like a psycho.

According to the woman:

When he refused to return my suitcase, that's when I sold his coordinates. I didn't list them to be vindictive. I listed them as a bit of a laugh.

This isn't the first "dating revenge" story we have heard. There are hot revenge bodies. There are even advice columns on how to get revenge on exes (right here!). We all get the urge. Obviously. But getting "revenge" is like getting high or drunk. It feels much better in the moment than it does in the hours and days that follow.

When a person does you wrong, it can feel like the end of the world and that the best possible thing to do is strike back. And maybe, in some cases, it is. This guy owed this woman money and so she found a way to get it.

But slashing tires and vandalizing property or taking out billboards against one's ex or holding a $5 garage sale for his car and other items aren't helpful. They only make the revenge-seeker look bad.

So cut your losses, cry to your girlfriends, call him a jerk, and move on. It's not worth the time or the effort that must be put into revenge. And, in the end, it isn't worth the heartache either.

Do you think "breakup revenge" is ever OK?

 

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