As teachers and students are laid to rest in Newtown, Connecticut, a few hours north, there was another, less publicized burial. Adam Lanza's mother Nancy Lanza's funeral took place in her hometown of Kingston, New Hampshire on Thursday. It was a private memorial held at her brother's house and approximately 25 family members were in attendance. All James Champion, Lanza's brother, could say was that it was a "very hard time right now."
There's just something so sad about Nancy Lanza's funeral. Here's a woman we don't know much about other than the grain-of-salt facts that she was a gun enthusiast and an over-wrought mother who lived in a small New England town. We don't know, yet, what exactly happened when her son came into her bedroom and shot her. Maybe there was a struggle. Maybe she tried to stop him. Maybe she didn't even have time to realize what was happening before her fatal wound.
She's a woman who's received her fair share of the blame for the Sandy Hook shooting. If only she didn't have those guns. If only she'd done something different with Adam. If only she could've known what her son was capable of, maybe those kids would still be alive today. While there may be a certain amount of truth in those statements, at some point, you can't blame the parent any longer for the actions of their child. The government says that age is 18. Adam was 20.
Nancy's been painted more as a criminal than a victim -- she's been depicted as some sort of rare breed of scapegoat, pawn, pigeon, casualty, and mother. But no matter how we outsiders view things, I hope her family remembers her for who she really was, whoever that may be.
How do you feel about Nancy Lanza?