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Woman's Death After Spending 42 Years In a Coma Is Testament of Mother's Love

by Michele Zipp on November 23, 2012 at 4:42 PM

holding handsBack in 1970, Edwarda O'Bara was a 16-year-old high school student who had diabetes and was on insulin. One morning she woke up feeling very ill and was rushed to the hospital. Edwarda said to her mom, Kaye, "Promise you won't leave me, will you, Mommy?" Mom Kaye said, "Of course not, I would never leave you, darling, I promise. And a promise is a promise!" Shortly after, Edwarda lost consciousness and slipped into a diabetic coma. Her mom kept her promise and stayed with her daughter, never institutionalizing her. She took care of her in her Miami Gardens home, 24-hours a day, with two hour breaks, sleeping just 90 minutes at a time.

Mom died before Edwarda did. Kaye passed away in 2008, but Edwarda wasn't left alone or put in a home. Edwarda's younger sister, Colleen, stepped in to take care of her. But now after being comatose for 42 years, Edwarda passed away.

She was 59 years old. Forty-two years in a diabetic coma.

Colleen says on the website edwardaobara.com that just before her sister died, Edwarda looked over at her and gave her the biggest smile she has ever seen.

It was reported on CBS Miami News that mom Kaye felt the spirit of the Virgin Mary in Edwarda's room.

Family. That is what we should all be thankful for. Even friends. People who are by your side no matter what, who make sacrifices to help you, take care of you, be there when you need them most. Even in the most challenging of circumstances. Kaye did that for her daughter for 38 years. I cannot imagine how hard that was for a mother to see her daughter in that state. Every day hoping for a miracle. That is the ultimate display of a mother's love. And Colleen stepping in when mom passed away is also a beautiful way to keep her mom's promise and to take care of her sister, according to her wishes when she was just a teen. What a beautiful family and I wish them peace.

This shows how in this life we should always surround ourselves with people who love us -- no need to waste time with those who don't show us respect and kindness. Because you never know.

Be thankful for the ones you love and who love you. Show them love and kindness always. The O'Bara family is a beautiful example of that.

Doesn't this story make you want to hug and cherish your family even more?


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  • kelti...
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    kelticmom

    November 23, 2012 at 5:54 PM
    For those who are religious, I've always wondered what happens to the soul in all those years of being in a coma? Is it like being asleep? Or is it aware? Just being in limbo for 42 years. I would rather have just passed.
  • JannaM8
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    JannaM8

    November 23, 2012 at 5:56 PM

    You somehow think this was a grand gesture? I think it's delusional. This woman couldn't let her daughter go, so she just gave up her whole life for no reason in order to care for someone who was not there. And think about the resources that were used to keep this 'woman' alive for 42 years. Shameful and delusional.


  • eupeptic
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    eupeptic

    November 23, 2012 at 6:25 PM
    kelticmom, I'm spiritual and can communicate with spirits and my understanding is that in terms of functionality it's just like while we're asleep: the soul can come or go as it pleases. It's not locked in. Also, my spirit guide is indicating that while the soul is in the body it largely only has the awareness of its surroundings that is provided by the body and brain (so if the body and brain are barely functional then the soul will only be aware of what the body provides it with, though it has the ability to separate itself from the body whenever it pleases and regain the functionality of its normal self.) (And there are some people in a vegetative state who have some awareness of their surroundings but are unable to respond to our attempts to interact with us - this was discovered within the past few years while asking patients to perform a mental task while undergoing a brain scan.)
  • MsRkg
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    MsRkg

    November 23, 2012 at 6:45 PM

    @JannaM8 diabetic coma does not mean brain dead. Many many many people slip into a diabetic coma in this country and usually wake within hours-weeks of entering it. Some are fine, some have brain damage, but they are still alive and functioning. This is an extreme case here and I cannot imagine why after giving her insulin (or glucose if hypoglymeic) she did not awaken, but she was by no means brain dead.  Would you not preserve the life of your child artificially if you knew that there was a chance she would one day awaken and could continue to live her life, albeit differently, but alive none the less?


  • mothe...
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    motherof2inFL

    November 23, 2012 at 7:11 PM

    i am the mother of a type 1 diabetic 5 year old.  if ANYTHING ever happened to her, i would never leave her side. 


  • Venae
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    Venae

    November 23, 2012 at 8:35 PM

    Surely she wasn't on a vent this entire time?  She still had to be tube-fed, however - I don't know that I could watch my child just lay there for years on end, changing her diapers, bathing her and turning her to avoid bedsores.  I admire the fact that mom didn't put her in a home, but took care of her herself; she must have had a husband who made plenty of money.


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    Jennifer Kilpela

    November 23, 2012 at 8:50 PM

    No, I won't say this is a good story. That poor girl was locked in her body for 38 yrs. It was nice her mother took care of her, but no, not something I would do to my own child.


  • pupuk...
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    pupukeawahine

    November 23, 2012 at 9:50 PM

    Sometimes people come out of comas, but after a few years I think I would have allowed her to die and go to the next dimension.  Perhaps she "stuck around" for her mother's sake.  Often the living need to let the dying go, and they need our blessings to do so.


  • Estel...
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    EstellaHavisham

    November 24, 2012 at 9:22 AM

    Sounds like torture to me :(


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    Austin Keenan

    November 24, 2012 at 11:11 AM

    They're either totally unaware or they're aware but can't communicate.     I wouldn't presume to judge someone for the decision they made or what they do to justify it in their own minds.   There is no certainty about it so they have to live with the possibility of being wrong no matter what.  


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