Ever since we learned about the unimaginable tragedy that befell the Krim family when their nanny, Yoselyn Ortega, allegedly stabbed two of their young children to death, the question we've all wanted the answer to is Why? We've had some serious clues, but we may never know exactly what was going through Ortega's mind. But one thing I've also been thinking about is, how do you recover from something like this? Can you recover? Can you go on to have a somewhat happy life? Is it even possible? The children's grandmother recently spoke out for the very first time about the impact this unspeakable crime has had on the family.
Lucia and Leo Krim's paternal grandmother, mother of the children's father, CNBC executive Kevin Krim, recently spoke to RadarOnline about how they're doing. She said:
It's just a horror story. I was their grandmother. It is really horrible. Under the circumstances, we are all doing as well as can be expected.
How do you go on? Many people lose their children. It's pretty rare that a child is lost under such horrific circumstances -- but any loss of a child is tragic. But when it's like this, this terrible, and if you are mother Marina Krim, and you SAW all of this -- how, how do you go on? You have to, especially if you have a surviving child, as Marina and Kevin do in 3-year-old Nessie.
But I think we'd all like to have some semblance of a fulfilling life, considering that, so far as we know for sure, it's the only one we're given. How do you laugh again? How do you enjoy little things again? How do you have fun with your spouse and child again? How do you hold a new child in your arms again? How do you feel safe again with people? How do you trust? How, how, how?
One can really only imagine the absolute mental anguish. Support systems of friends, family, and spiritual or emotional advisers or therapists must be vital. The love of your spouse and child. The concern of strangers -- because we're all human. And, of course, time.
Last night I watched a TV show about a military man whose wife and two young children were stabbed to death for no reason by a man who'd recently adopted their dog. This was real -- not a fiction show. Over 20 years later, the man was still sad. But he'd managed to move on. He had his life.
Hopefully, someday, the Krim family will know what it is to feel some semblance of normalcy again.
What does it take to recover from a tragedy like this?
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