Crime SceneDespite a storm of epic proportion hitting Manhattan this week, the Krim family alleged nanny killings have still been at the forefront of many people’s minds. Last week, on October 25, Yoselyn Ortega is accused of stabbing Lucia and Leo Krim, 6 and 2, to death in their bathroom while their mother was at swim lessons with her third child.

Yesterday, finally, after one week of speculation, Ortega was finally formally charged with the crime and now she will face a trial. For many parents (myself included), the unimaginable horror Marina Krim faced upon walking into that bathroom has haunted us all week. Her blog — Life With the Little Krims — was pulled for a few days, but it seems to be back up now. It now serves as a moving tribute to the three little lives that were permanently altered by this crime.

One person no one really talks about in this crime is the middle sister. Obviously all moms can imagine the horror Marina Krim felt. Dads can imagine what father Kevin Krim felt upon returning from a business trip and being told his children were dead. But what about little Nessie Krim? She is only three. It is not clear whether she saw what her mother saw. I hope she did not.

Still, the panic of seeing her mom so scared and the police and not knowing what happened must have been scarring. A couple of days after the horrific tragedy, Krim sent an email to his friends and colleagues saying he and Marina were heartbroken but Nessie was “fine.” Really? Fine?

My guess is she will never be “fine.” From all outside judgement it looks like they were a very close family, the siblings played together well and in a loving manner. Her loss is incalculable. It is heartbreaking. It is enormous and it is permanently altering.

What Ortega is accused of doing is more than killing two children (though that is horrifying on its own). She also destroyed a family. Witnesses say that mother Marina was screaming about what she would do with the rest of her life after she found her kids. It is hard to imagine coming back from something like this and recovering and trying to be normal. There is nothing “normal” about losing one’s family this way.

If Ortega committed this crime, she deserves to spend the rest of her life feeling awful. But nothing will compare to what this family will feel. It’s so wrong we need a new word for wrong. My heart is just broken for the Krims and I am sure most parents will never forget this case.

Are you glad the nanny was finally charged?

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