Man Pretends to Be Gay for a Year & Has a Life-Changing Awakening (VIDEO)

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Timothy KurekFor Timothy Kurek, a Christian who was once vehemently anti-gay, homosexuals were bad. They were wrong. And they should burn in hell. Amazingly, Kurek decided to open his mind and put himself in someone else's shoes. For one year, he pretended to be gay. The results changed his mind forever.

His sea-change means one thing clearly: being a racist or homophobe is entirely a result of ignorance and blindness. Once people open their minds, it can end.

Kurek's decision to spend a year living as a "gay" man came after a friend came out to him as a lesbian. He even "came out" to his mom, had a friend be his boyfriend, joined a gay softball league, and was called names like "faggot." It changed him.


His book The Cross in the Closet is all about his change of heart when it comes to gays. The fact is, once you know a gay person, you quickly realize, gay or straight, we all basically want the same things. We all want love. We want to be accepted. We want to be close to others and not be bullied or called names.

People who taunt gays or think it's funny to call others "gay" as an insult or, worse, use the word "faggot" as though it were acceptable are missing out. They are missing the full spectrum of love and life and they are doing so because they are ignorant and scared.

There is no shame in admitting ignorance and trying something new. The fact that Kurek could do this opened up a whole world to him. If only everyone were so open.

The reality is that most people who "hate" gays have never met someone is. If they had, they would know all the things the rest of us know about homosexuals. If you want to hate, why not hate the things that SHOULD be hated?

How about hating poverty? Or unemployment? Or crappy maternity leave policies that leave women having to go back to work when their babies are 3 weeks old? There are so many REAL things to hate. Why bother hating people? It's a fruitless waste of time that hurts instead of helps.

Good for Kurek for curing his own ignorance and using his awakening to help others. Let's hope all religious people who use that to cloak hatred and fear do the same.

Have you ever had an awakening about something you feared?


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amiec... amiecanflie

This made my day. <3 I wish more people would do something like this! All it takes is a little nudge and we can put an end to the hate. 

nonmember avatar strawberry

I dont have a problem with anyone being gay, except when you find out your boyfriend is gay. Now that i got a problem with.

nonmember avatar dee

If we could all walk in another's shoes even for a day what a changed world this would be

tnyangel tnyangel

Do you think if kids weren't so afraid of being beaten and ostracized for being homosexual, that they would live their lives openly and not start relationships with opposite sex people they are not in love with just so they conform to what is accepted?

I think it's fear. Fear keeps many young men and women living the life that is accepted. This kid just did a lot to dispel that fear. Maybe a few more people will teach their kids not to label and attack their peers.

CPN322 CPN322

Dee - so true.

iicar... iicarmerin

You don't have to agree with someone's life style inorder to be respectful. Just because I believe something doesn't mean I have to impose it on you. It does however mean we should be able to respect each other. I think there are so many misconceptions about sexual preferences, religions, cultures etc. That cause fear in people.

Mindy... Mindymama

I don't judge gay people. I just don't want my kids to be gay.

nonmember avatar Christie

I love that he did this. And the fact that he even had the thought to do so shows that he is truly a christian and not one of the many judgemental "christians" that I have encountered in my life

fleur... fleurdelys3110

What a nice story. If only everyone were this open-minded when it came to things like acceptance of others. I may not want to live someone's life and I may not agree with their choices, but I will respect them and support them to live how they want to. 

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