Michelle Obama Gets Today's Moms Right, Ann Romney Gets Them SO Wrong (VIDEO)

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Oh Ann Romney, I just don't know what to say. I'm so sorry. In the competition that is the candidate's wife speech, Michelle Obama obliterated you at the DNC Convention last night. I hear she even did her own writing! As MSNBC's Alex Wagner tweeted last night, "First Lady to Ann Romney: 'I will take your pasta & tunafish in a basement, and raise you a car with rusted holes & a dumpster coffee table.'"

But this is not a competition over who struggled more as a young couple. What stood out to me was how Ann Romney and Michelle Obama each spoke about their experiences as women and mothers and exactly how well their husbands understand their struggles. To hear Ann Romney tell it at the RNC Convention, you'd think Mitt Romney idealizes motherhood without caring much about the specifics -- or truly appreciating how hard she works. Michelle Obama's speech, on the other hand, describes a man who is deeply aware of and empathetic to the challenges and work mothers face.

"Tonight I want to talk with you about love," Ann said. "I want to talk to you about that love so deep only a mother can fathom it -- the love we have for our children and our children's children." We didn't hear much beyond that about what Ann's love for her own children and grandchildren means to her in specifics, though. From there she talks about the struggles middle-class families are facing right now.

"And if you listen carefully, you'll hear the women sighing a little bit more than the men. It's how it is, isn't it?" Naturally, the women in the audience loved this. "You're the ones who always have to do a little more." But while Ann mentions women working harder to earn "the respect you deserve at work," she also says she doesn't think men really understand that there's not a woman in America "who really expects her life to be easy."

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Yikes -- did Ann just reveal more about Romney there than she meant to? Because what I'm picturing now is a Mitt who just never got how hard his wife works, who put motherhood on a pedestal but was ultimately not very empathetic about Ann's struggles as a mother. "That's fine," Ann says like a martyr. I don't agree. I think that empathy deficit says everything that's wrong about Romney's candidacy.

Michelle Obama talked about being a mom, too -- America's "mom-in-chief." She made jokes about being a working mom who was so tired that on her dates with Barack they had to choose between dinner or a movie because she was too tired for both.

But she was at her best when she focused on the women who raised her and Barack. They both grew up with families who didn't have much money "but who had given us something far more valuable -- their unconditional love, their unflinching sacrifice, and the chance to go places they had never imagined for themselves."

To Ann Romney's vague statement that women have to work harder than men, laboring in mute acceptance, Michelle talks about Barack's single mother struggling to pay bills. She tells us about his secretary grandmother, who watched as men she trained were promoted over her. Michelle does not think "that's fine." She thinks it's unacceptable, especially for moms trying to support a family. So that's why she mentions Barack signing the Lily Ledbetter Act demanding equal pay for equal work.

You see, men can understand how women work harder. And they can do something about it. That's a difference that matters to me. “For Barack, these issues aren’t political -- they’re personal.” Moms need a president who actually sees and values the work moms do in specifics. Not in some bland, "you moms are so important" kind of way that results in exactly zero policies that support us. We're smarter -- and more valuable -- than that.

What did you think about the differing ways Michelle Obama and Ann Romney talked about motherhood?


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nonmember avatar Guest


Michelle Obama says nice things about her husband.

What a good "Stepford Wife" she is, smiling for the camera, and playing her role just like she is supposed to...

nonmember avatar shanmom

Oh, PLEASE! Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. I won't be fooled a second time!

Flori... Floridamom96

What are corporate Mormons?


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Whereas, if Ann Romney had said, "I fed my kids Cheerios when they were young." They would castigate her because that was "so 20 years ago and doesn't relate to today's moms"

cecil... cecilmansmom

Michelle Obama Gets Today's Moms Right, Ann Romney Gets Them SO Wrong 



fleur... fleurdelys3110

I agree with JAFE. In touch Shmim touch!! The important thing is that the President knows how to lead a country, how to interact with other countries, and how to make decisions. You are all doing yourselves and this country a disservice by thinking about anything else.

nonmember avatar Dawn

Yeah, Michelle Obama gets it SOOOOO right! The multi-million dollar vacations WE are paying for so she can take her daughters around the world. Can someone pay for me to do that for my kids??? Anyone? Anyone? Didn't think so. What a ridiculous article. I thought the Stir was in favor of NOT pitting moms against each other.....

nonmember avatar Carol

As a mom, my concern is the future of our country. With another Obama term my children and grandchildren will not have the opportunities we have enjoyed throughout our history. Regardless of what Michelle may say Barak Obama is not a leader. He may be cool, but I will vote for Romney because he is competent. Ann Romney’s speech was remarkable and she did speak from the heart.

Flori... Floridamom96

Clearly you haven't spent much time here, Dawn, if that's how you see CafeMom. I haven't seen another site so bad about instigating the mommy and women wars.

nonmember avatar Mom2be

To all the haters: You would have bashed Michelle no matter what she said. Also, there is another ObamaSucks piece from Jenny today so that should make you feel better.

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