Women Are NEVER Raped Because They 'Dressed Like a Whore'

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woman walking on the sidewalkToronto's mayor, Rob Ford, is likely none-too-pleased with his niece, Krista Ford, right now. The former Lingerie Football player has made headlines in Canada and around the world for the disturbing comments she made concerning rape. Think not as bad as Todd Akin, but definitely in the same galaxy. 

In the wake of a string of sexual assaults in Toronto, and just one hour after a press conference regarding the attacks had been held, the 21-year-old tweeted, "Stay alert, walk tall, carry mace, take self-defence classes & don't dress like a whore." Wow, right? Because OF COURSE a woman's outfit is directly linked to a potential sexual assault!

Okay, to give Ford the benefit of the doubt for a moment, I wouldn't be surprised if she had just thrown that remark in at the end of her tweet as a lame-o attempt at Judd Apatow-flavored comic relief. But too bad -- it's just not funny at all. Instead, it's a scary reflection of how pervasive sexism is in our culture that some people think it's acceptable to accuse women of inciting their own rapes by "dressing like whores."

Honestly, it blows my mind that anyone -- let alone a woman!-- could subscribe to the out-to-lunch thought process that women are bringing sexual assault upon themselves if they wear revealing clothing. That mentality does nothing but take us back centuries.

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Thankfully, Ford seems to have been admonished for what she wrote. Not only was her tweet deleted and her account blocked, but she issued an apologetic statement the Toronto Sun meant to clarify her remarks:

[I] didn't mean to cause such an alarm. I just want women to be safe. What I meant to say was that women should take measures to protect themselves and be very careful not to place themselves or allow themselves to be placed in vulnerable positions that may compromise their safety. It's important that the public knows that my comments do not reflect my family's beliefs.

Uh-huh ... The last line in particular makes me think she may have been strong-armed into back-pedaling. Oh well. We can still hope Ford gave some thought to what a rape victim might have to say about her misguided, ignorant remark and in doing so, learned from her mistake.

How do you feel about Krista's tweet? Do you think it reflects a scary culture of victim-blaming in our society?


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paren... parentalrights1

Yeah. People need to quick the slut shaming crap and realize that men are just as capable of restraint as women are. Stop the "boys will be boys" crap. If people spent as much time making men ashamed as they do women you would see that men have the same level of restraint. And you might see fewer teen pregnancies too if you stop putting it all on the girls and just letting the boys go out and pursue them freely.


But not to stray off topic. I don't want to sound like I think sex is some evil thing. I think what a grown adult does is a grown adult's business, but this double standard crap has to stop. It's either both or neither and if a man is sick enough to force himself on a woman, keeping yourself covered up is not going to stop him from raping. If every woman in the world wore turtle necks, rape would still exist. What women need to do is arm themselves with knowledge about how rapists really think and how to best defend themselves.

Carol99 Carol99

Anyone who would play football in the lingerie league is probably incapable of a rational thought so I think we should smile, pat her on the head and tell her to go play with her Barbies..

Anna Potts

get a gun and dress how you want i was 4 and molested did i dress like a whore did i lead some guy on? wow i never knew that i was a whore so young. people suck and this barbie will never understand she has crossed over to what men say about women .

Flori... Floridamom96

Parentalrights, um, I've never seen or heard one person say "boys will be boys" in reference to rape. It seems to me that perhaps you have a real issue with men if you see all males as potential rapists.

nonmember avatar Mark B

So if a guy goes around running his mouth he shouldn't be held partially responsible for getting his add kicked? Or some idiot leaves their IPhone laying on the seat next to them yet they bear no blame for it getting stolen? Rape is wrong and the perp is to blame, but there are things a woman can do to minimize it. Women who dress like whores are not inviting rape, but it is quite possible they are giving the wrong message to those who are so inclined. While this may upset many women out there, so many of those who are offended by this observation will also say that a man deserved being stabbed or shot or whatever by their wife/GF because he was being such a prick to her.

nonmember avatar nonmem

Yeah, a male babysitter had his way when I was 7. I was a tomboy who always wore big shirts and pants, I definitely was not dressed like a whore.

nonmember avatar ally

Parentalrights is making a point that as a society, we spend a lot of energy making women ashamed for being sexual. Yes, women are capable of rape, but has anyone ever said anything about a male victim's outfit? No, he's treated liked a true victim. I think that's what parentalrights is saying, when a women is raped there are people that immediately point out what she was wearing, they wouldn't do the same for a male victim. And I didn't get that she thinks all males are potential rapist. Florida, you need to calm down.

Allis... AllisonWD

Just so I have this right: A lingerie football player says "don't dress like a whore." hrm..too easy.

nonmember avatar markisanidiot

A rapist will rape no matter what. If a women is dressed sexually and giving the "wrong messages",when the dude figures she wants free drinks but is not taking him home, he reacts like a normal man, pouts, and goes home. A rapist is going to rape a woman no matter how short/long her skirt is.

Pinst... Pinstripes4

The best rape advice is don't put yourself in a situation where someone can be taken advantage of you. Wearing sexy clothes is not one of these situations. (And on a side note, cat-calling is never, ever okay, regardless of what the person is wearing. Huge pet peeve of mine)

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