Don't Like Gay Marriage? How About a 3-Person Civil Union

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3 glassesGay marriage weird you out? Try this one on for size. A couple -- actually, make that a trio -- has just been sanctioned a three-person civil union among a man and two women. The people, who reside in Brazil, have been living together for years, and they share household responsibilities similar to that of two-person couples -- for instance, all three of their names are on the checking account. The reason they sought to make their relationship official? In case one of them dies. The reason the judge gave them the go ahead? "For better or worse, it doesn't matter, but what we considered a family before isn't necessarily what we would consider a family today."


Is a three-person civil union unconventional? Sure is. Is it for me? Nope, not at all. But, I truly don't understand the point of people getting so up in arms about stuff like this (and there are people getting up in arms), because who cares? Just because one person believes in something doesn't mean everyone else has to. As I said, a three-person relationship isn't my cup of tea -- just like a "conventional" marriage isn't for these guys. I don't know when -- or why -- it became okay for other people (and the government) to tell everyone how they should live their love lives. I'm all for rules and regulations in other areas, but this is one thing that should just be left alone already.

You know how much this three-person union is going affect other people's lives? Zero. People may be upset and bothered by this arrangement, as it goes against their beliefs, but it will have no bearing on their day-to-day goings on. They'll still be able to curl up at night with their partner in peace, no interruptions whatsoever. Not a single aspect of their lives will change.

So, seriously. What is the point of getting all up in arms?

What do you think of this?


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nonmember avatar C

This story makes me so happy. I hope that our country can come to this realization too. It may not be for me, but it's not my business or my life. More power to them!

we2an... we2angels

ita with you. It's nobody's business but their own, doesn't make my marriage any less valid.

Saphr... SaphronScribble

Here here. Wouldn't be my cup of tea either, but it's not harming anyone and it's not my place to tell other people how to live. If this trio has been living together for a long time and are in a committmed relationship by all means they are entitled to the legal benefits of a committed relationship. I'm sure a lot of people will claim this is an "abomination" but always remember - your god is not other people's god, and just b/c your religion says one man one woman equals marriage doesn't mean other people's religion says the same thing. The only concern I'd have is that the women are maybe being exploited in some way by sharing a man? But hey, as long as they are genuinely happy, I have no problems with this! Also seriously people, we really need to legalize gay marriage already. Marriage should be about LOVE, not politics, that's it!

nonmember avatar blh

My problem with this is that no woman with good self esteem or self worth would ever do this. And I dont want my son growing up with the idea that this is appropriate or good.

nonmember avatar Gretta

Despite what your personal opinions are on how acceptable a certain idea is, I think the "it's not any of my business, it doesn't affect me" argument is really very weak. Accepting things like this shape who we are as a society and therefore it affects everyone. You can't just stick your head in the sand and say that it doesn't (even if you think it's fine). What if is was something that you found a complete abomination? Why should you care if I'm doing it, if it doesn't affect you personally?

AliNo... AliNoelle

More power to them if it makes them happy.

poppy... poppymuffin

Who cares? I care! Why? Because I would like to live in a society (not Brazil) whose laws support what is part and parcel to every society, every culture, every religion, every human group since the dawn of time...that marriage is the union of a man and a woman which has the natural orientation to produce a family (reproduction).

nonmember avatar Brittany

Interesting. I am very pro same sex marriage, but not sure how to feel about this. One of the arguments people make against same-sex marriage is the slippery slope argument that if you let gay people marry, then you pave the way for legalized polygamy, marriage to animals, children, etc. I would hate for those people to be right. On the other hand, I don't care if three people want to be in a committed relationship, so why should I care if the government recognizes it? And would I feel differently if their relationship was classified under "marriage" rather than "civil union"? I just hope circumstances like these do not undermine the gay rights movement in the U.S.

nonmember avatar Katrina

If that is your argument poppymuffin, you should love this. Men marrying multiple women at the same time has been around since the 'dawn of time'. And since reproduction is a necessity for your definition of marriage are elderly couples or infertile couples not allowed to marry either?

If no one is being injured or children taken advantage of, everyone needs to butt out of other peoples lives. I think this is great.

nonmember avatar Taylor

Gretta - I do understand where you're coming from in regard to not being able to just say "it doesn't affect me personally so it's none of my business argument." However, with a planet that currently houses billions of people, I cannot imagine trying to legally establish the morals with which every person is expected to live, even if we're just talking about the hundreds of millions of people living just in the United States. Talk about a slippery slope! I wouldn't say my feelings are limited to "if it doesn't personally affect me, it's none of my business" - I certainly think it's my business if another individual is being hurt in some manner or is having their rights infringed upon. I consider it my role as a human being to stand up for others even if it doesn't personally impact my life. Bottom line, though, I don't want others to be able to tell me how to live my life, and as long as I'm not hurting others by exercising my freedom to live life as I choose, I have the right to be left alone. What if someone decided the way in which you lived your life was an abomination? Would it be okay for them to force you to live your life a different way if they managed to convince more people that their moral beliefs were superior and thus trumped your own?

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