Teacher Mom Accused of Poisoning Own Kids to Get Back at Cheating Dad

NYPDHow's this for sick and sad? Police in New York City say a mom, who also happens to be an elementary school teacher, poisoned her own kids because she was mad at her husband for cheating. The kids are now dead, and Lissette Bamenga had to be rushed to the hospital after an alleged suicide attempt.

In fact, the only one not physically hurt in the whole horrific ordeal was Trevor Noel, the father and alleged cheating spouse! Don't get me wrong, the NYPD officer and dad of 5-year-old Trevor Jr. and 4-month-old Liliane is sure to be in extreme emotional distress right now over the loss of his children. My heart breaks for him.

I just can't help thinking how this SHOULD have gone down, how these two kids should be here today.

If Lissette Bamenga really poisoned her own kids (remember, the mother of two has only been charged with first-degree murder at this point, not convicted), she victimized the wrong people. It's her husband who allegedly got another woman pregnant. So why wasn't it her husband who is paying the price?

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I'm not suggesting she should have fed him de-icer, the poison cops say was used to kill the children. Physical violence of any sort is never the answer.

But when you are mad at someone, you take it up with that person. Period. Whether we're talking leaving the kids out of a dispute with your spouse or a boss who is pushing around their employees because they're mad at the company, there's a major disconnect between crime and punishment.

What should Bamenga have done if her husband was really stepping out? Easy.

Divorce the lying, cheating rat bastard. Take him for everything he's got. Take his pension. Take his favorite motorcycle (or whatever toy he adores ... most people have one). You make that person pay for violating your trust and the vows you took to enter the marriage. But you leave everyone else out of it, especially the innocent kids.

What do you think should be done with this mother?


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cmjaz cmjaz

Irrational people can't think rationally. Since she just had a baby, I wonder if post partum was some of the cause

dirti... dirtiekittie

this is just tragic, all around. she's either unstable and will not grasp what she's done, or she will realize what she's done and never be stable again. either way, it's a terrible situation. those poor children should never have been brought into the middle of it. may their sweet souls rest in peace.

Mrscj... Mrscjones

@lydia what is wrong with you. See a therapist asap if not for then for any man or child that comes near you since you think it was ok what she did.

Todd Vrancic

The fact that she gave birth to them does not mean she can kill them.  They were her kids only in the fact that she was their mother, they were not property.  My child is not the same thing as my shovel.  I don't think she should get the death penalty, then it's over too quickly.

Lulu425 Lulu425

I understand Lydia's point. It takes two to tango, so to speak. It doesn't make what she did "right," but the woman is clearly unstable. This woman birthed this douchebag's children, and then he turned around and violated their relationship and trust. It's debilitating and now, this already unstable woman is not only shouldering the burden of dealing with her husband's infidelity but now she has these children that not only probably look like him and share similar traits, but also symbolize what she had before he destroyed it. Again, it doesn't make it "right" but it does give the situation some perspective.

Also, seriously? Name-calling? Grow up, seriously. Lydia had an opinion and voiced it. Get over yourselves.


Death sentence no question! Unless she was suffering from pps..but still, I dont think I could think of any other punishment. Those where her children! so sad:(

ThePi... ThePishPosh

Lunacy. Cheating on a partner does not equal responsibility for killing children. Sounds like you are projecting, Lydia.

This mother could have sought counseling for emotional distress. Anyone who could kill her children over anything is very far gone. Nobody is responsible for her actions but her. And this is very sad.

Our culture seems to celebrate revenge when it comes to a cheating man. Country songs and the like suggest that taking bats and nine-irons to his car will teach him to think twice. This is ridiculous.

Any number of options from counseling, couples counseling, working through it, breaking up, moving on were available. Cheating is heartbreaking and hurts very badly. Sometimes it ruins people, if they don't seek help. But in no situation is it justifiable for murdering your own children. And in some cases it can be worked through, and in others, not. But revenge does not punish or teach or fix or help anything or anyone.

It is sad that we even think we should "take away his favorite toy." Let's be grownups, even when we're hurt. Divorce, especially when children are involved, is painful. It is the separation of a family. It is not supposed to be about punishment and revenge. The idea is that the relationship is dissolved, and both parties can heal and make a better life with a different partner.

 It is unhealthy to try to play out your emotional hurt on another person, to hurt them back. Take care of yourself, heal, and find happiness.

lilmo... lilmomma8287

I agree with everybody else, lydia is crazy and sounds like she is the next casey Anthony we will see. Who cares if he cheated, big deal...get over it. Get a new man who can be faithful to you but to kill your own flesh n blood is complete insanity. It is 100% her fault and I feel bad for the dad. But the fact is she will have a trial and if convicted she might be put on death row in which she will appeal a dozen times or more which will keep get alive for 10 years or more. that's sad cuz the kids didn't have a choice to appeal to her decision to kill get children. She will end up being put in ad sag to protect her from the general population. She will be givin rights she doesn't deserve.

sunse... sunset414

This story has so much more to it than the husband cheating etc. This woman has some serious issues. Murder is wrong no matter what. NO EXCUSES (pps) she committed murder. She needs to live with that and suffer the consequences for that. His actions he needs to live with as well.

Lydia, do you truly feel that way or did you say it to get under others skin? 


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