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Murdered Mom & Young Sons Were Trying to 'Break Free' From Abusive Boyfriend

by Jeanne Sager on June 21, 2012 at 3:50 PM

Brandy Cerny
Brandy Cerny
A little boy was taken off life support by his grieving family last night in a Texas hospital. Jaydin Thompson’s death is the third his family has to come to grips with after cops say his mom's boyfriend shot the 6-year-old and his 1-year-old half-brother in a hotel. Demond Bluntson has also been charged with murder in the death of the boys' mother, Brandy Cerny.

I didn't think the story could get much more sad. That is until I heard what Brandy Cerny's family had to say about the 28-year-old mom and her relationship with Bluntson. It sounds eerily like the writing was on the wall here.

According to Cerny's great-aunt, the mother of two knew the father of her younger child was trouble long before he allegedly killed her and the kids. And she was trying to do something about it. Brandy Cerny had already broken up with Bluntson, and she was pursuing her master's degree to try to give her kids a better life. As Dianne Cerny said:

Our hearts are forever broken and we as a family speak out against domestic violence and ask that anyone who feels threatened seek the necessary help to break free. Brandy was in the process of breaking free.

Sadly, that's the way it happens so often with domestic violence cases. You hear all the time: "why doesn't she just leave?" But as this sad case goes to show, nothing is that simple.

A man or a woman tries to get away from their abuser, but it's not as easy as just "breaking up" with someone. I'm sure things were complicated for Cerny by the fact that she and Bluntson had a child, 1-year-old Davian, in common.

But even without a child, domestic abuse victims are advised to go to pretty extreme lengths to protect themselves. I'm talking everything from moving to a new home with an unlisted number to at times changing where you shop and finding new routes to work. Some victims are even advised to change jobs.

It's easy to judge victims for "staying" or "not doing enough," but no one deserves the horror that's been visited on the Cerny family this week. No one.

How does this case impact your thoughts on domestic violence?

 

Image via Laredo Police

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  • dirti...
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    dirtiekittie

    June 21, 2012 at 4:06 PM

    my heart goes out to that family. no one should ever have to be in an abusive relationship - and i hope stories like this will only serve to help those seek the help they need to get away from terrible situations they may be in. how terribly tragic. :(


  • tigge...
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    tigger238

    June 21, 2012 at 4:08 PM

    This happened in my home town where nothing like that ever happens. It was shocking to hear. RIP to the two little ones and their mom.


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    mamiofthree1982

    June 21, 2012 at 4:53 PM
    So devastating to hear about this. Its so easy for people to say "just leave" I myself am a survivor of an abusive 13 year relationship..I almost lost my life. RIP my love and your beautiful babies too :( nobody should have to be in that much fear.
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    kuwelsdestiny

    June 21, 2012 at 9:09 PM
    This was beautifully written. Thank you for shedding light on some of the difficulties that DV victims suffer. I am praying for this family.
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    Elizabeth

    June 21, 2012 at 9:13 PM
    This is what I'm terrified of happening if I try to leave. Legally I can't just take our daughter and leave the state. I have no one to count on where I live. He purposely moved me over 1000 miles away from anyone I knew for that reason. It is never as easy as just "breaking up". I pray that he will leave or die. Either way, please God free me of this hell.
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    jennifer2712

    June 21, 2012 at 10:22 PM
    Elizabeth,run like the wind and never look back
  • Michele
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    Michele

    June 22, 2012 at 9:30 AM
    Elizabeth, there are battered womens shelters that will help you and your daughter. You can take your daughter and leave, they will help you do it. Call them and get out of there!
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    OkieGirl74

    June 22, 2012 at 1:55 PM

    The sad thing is that the signs of his violence were probably evident long before she got pregant and had a child with him.  Sadly, too many women think they can change him if they love him enough.


  • Vanessa.
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    Vanessa.

    June 23, 2012 at 3:57 AM
    This happened in my hometown and everyone is so saddend by it, such a tragedy:(( poor babies, i have a one year old myself and this hits home because they were still growing
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    Charlotte Lee

    July 5, 2012 at 5:44 PM
    Elizabeth, please think of yourself and ur daughter. RUN LIKE HELL!!! dont give him anymore power over you. u and ur daughter are in my thoughts and prayers.
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