Dottie Sandusky, the wife of disgraced Penn State Assistant Football Coach Jerry Sandusky, is finally telling her side of the story as she testified yesterday in her husband's trial. For months, we have all speculated about what she knew and now we know. She claims to have not seen any evidence of abuse. True or not, my heart breaks for her.
The fact is, Jerry Sandusky stands accused of doing some of the most horrific things to young boys that some of us can even imagine. But his wife is not accused of anything. She was with this man for 45 years, raised six children with him, and supported his career. And whether it's because she is in massive denial or whether it's because she is telling the truth, I do believe she believes what she says.
His face on my television and computer makes me want to throw up, but poor Dottie Sandusky has to feel that times infinity as she was married to him.
Denial can be very powerful for some. There are those who use it in mild ways -- they pretend their marriages are good when they are really awful, they tell themselves they are happy when their lives are a mess, and they claim to love their jobs when you know they don't. But Dottie Sandusky takes that to a whole different level.
Could she have known and stayed with him? My gut says no. I am not basing it on anything scientific but I have to believe that any normal, functioning human being would leave a man she knew was committing these acts.
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My guess is she used a powerful psychological tool to push all those feelings way, way down. One of Sandusky's accusers said she walked in while Sandusky was forcing him to perform oral sex.
Dottie's side of the story was that the two were arguing about tickets to a dinner they had paid $50 for (the child did not want to attend) and she heard Sandusky say: "We did this for you, and you've got to do this for us." Was her mind playing tricks? Did she force herself not to listen to the true meaning behind that line because it was too awful?
We may never know the truth of what she knew, but I say the mind of a powerful thing and if someone does not want to know something, it can protect us. Dottie Sandusky may be messed up, she may have enabled him in her own awful way, but I don't think she knew on a conscious level and the poor woman's world has crumbled. My heart does go out to her. She is a victim, too.
Do you think his wife knew what was happening?
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I think she should share a cell right next to him. I agree with the above commenter's and "what if it were your child?" Then I'll bet this would be a different ball game. 45 years????? This sickens me.
The dysfunction of that family goes to depths too disgusting to ever ponder, let alone explain or fix.
This women absolutely Disgusts me! These things Do Not Happen in a Vacuum, She Knew! It is clear that she has been protecting herself and her "Life Style". The clincher is the way that she "Attacked" the Victims. Why didn't any of their adopted kids testify? That also says a lot!
The author of this article has No Clue about the topic that she chose to write about! This is Not about the "Housewives" this is Serious and "Real Life" and not to be taken lightly, without any true knowledge about this topic.
As for the Sandusky's they Both Deserve Prison! And I hope that he looses his retirement and they loose everything in Civil Lawsuits!
She knowingly allowed this to go on FOR DECADES. She's his accomplish. My heart doesn't break for her, it breaks for her victims.
Doh, accomplice not accomplish. To Savannah, I understand being in denial for years but the massive amount of time this went on and the shockingly graphic things this woman saw don't justify denial for that long. I have a hard time believing anyone could be in such massive denial for decades after seeing what she saw. My guess is she finally realized (fully) what was going on but decided to stay and do nothing anyway. Now she's playing the victim in order to save face.
what a shame she knew nothing of such .. going on
i doubt that she didnt know..she must have at least suspected. especially if it was going on inside the house, she definitely knew. my guess is that she is like many women that are dependent on their husnbands, with kids, didnt want to change the comfortable life style that she had, and get into all this mess. and her best position now is to pretend she didnt know anything.
If she did,in fact,walk in on her husband having oral sex with one of those poor boys,NO,I don't believe she didn't know.She knew,she just didn't WANT to know,didnt want to face that after giving 40 yrs of her life to a pedophile.Didn't want her children to know what their father was..didn't want the disgrace.No,if she walked in on that,as its being reported,then she knew and was protecting her own. She is,in a way,as guilty as he is..at least guilty of harm to every single boy who came after the one she walked in on! She should be ashamed,what if someone had hid the pervery who was molesting one of HER children?