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Parents Charged With Killing Daughter's Pimp Acted Too Late

by Jeanne Sager on June 14, 2012 at 11:23 AM

copsA mom and dad are in police custody this week after allegedly killing the man pimping out their 17-year-old daughter after tracking him around Southern California. Want to hail Barry Gilton and Lupe Mercado as heroic parents? Not so fast.

Whether they actually rid the streets of a pimp or not is still up in the air. Gilton and Mercado's lawyer has indicated the parents will be pleading not guilty to all charges relating to the death of 22-year-old Calvin Sneed. And then there's this nagging truth: 17-year-old girls do not just run away from home and become prostitutes overnight.

The San Francisco area parents say that their daughter -- one of their three kids -- just disappeared on them awhile ago. After searching for her, they say they found her turning tricks, with Sneed, a gang member, as her pimp. They also say that they went to the authorities and got no help.

I feel for them. I really do.

But let's get real. There was something going on in that home well before their daughter ran away. Happy teenage girls do not just up and disappear. And they certainly do not turn to prostitution. There are risk factors for that kind of behavior: and 9 times out of 10, they lead right back to dear old Mom and Dad. I'm not saying they drove her to it per se, but they certainly raised this kid.

Even if Mercado and Gilton did not hunt down the man who they say was pimping out their daughter, then shoot at him twice, finally killing him on June 4, something stinks about this family and their story. Not convinced? How about this? Gilton has prior convictions for drug dealing and possession. Not exactly the upstanding citizen turned possible criminal just this once for the good of his child, huh?

If the couple did what they're accused of, they may have done it with the best of intentions. But they are far from innocent in all of this. Maybe if they'd parented a little better, they wouldn't be in this mess ... ?

What do you make of this whole situation? How could these parents have gotten around a possible murder of a pimp to prevent their teenager from being a prostitute?

 

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Filed Under: child abuse, crime, death

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  • guest
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    guest

    June 14, 2012 at 12:06 PM
    Wow Jeanne this is the first blog you've written that dissapointed me. So you have no idea how many girls this happen's to a year? This girl wasn't a prostitute. She was 17 year's old that makes her the vitim of sex trafficing. I don't agree with the parent's for killing this guy but get the facts straight. This actually, happen's a lot in America to underage girls from good families, and there are people in the media trying to share this with the country. This story seem's to have some big holes in. I get it from all your blogs you are upset by the number of parents taking the law into their own hands but at least get all the facts.
  • mlber...
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    mlberry4172

    June 14, 2012 at 12:13 PM
    I think you maybe jumping to conclusions a little to quickly. This girl could have ran away for some petty reason, 17 yo's don't have the best sense. I have heard some AWfUL stories about young runaways being held against their will and forced into prostitution. The pimp often tells them that if they leave, they will harm their family. I'm not defending the parents actions, I will say I look very differently at prostitution after hearing these stories. And yes, this happens in America!!!!
  • the4m...
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    the4mutts

    June 14, 2012 at 12:47 PM
    Plenty of girls from good homes run away. I had a friend run away because he parents wouldn't allow her to go to a dance, because she failed that weeks history test.
    She was a spoiled rotten brat, and when she showed up at my door looking for somewhere to stay, my mom called her mom to come get her. This girl had never been abused or neglected a day in her life.

    Maybe this 17yr old had a horrid home life, maybe she was just a fucking brat who took off. Until the details come out, you can't sit and blame parents for her being an underage prostitute.
  • SoJaided
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    SoJaided

    June 14, 2012 at 3:50 PM
    This girl could of had a perfectly normal home life, but 17 year old girls can be overly dramatic and not see how good they have it. Maybe she met this guy and fell in "love" or something and her parents didn't approve and she ran away or maybe she was just a wild child. You don't know. But then, she gets out on her own with him and things change, ya feel me?
    I'm not saying this is the case, but I'm 26 so it wasn't THAT long ago that I was 17 and I still remember how we can be at that age.
  • kuwel...
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    kuwelsdestiny

    June 14, 2012 at 3:51 PM
    You should have googled "teenage sex trafficking" before writing this. NONONONONO! Dont say that teenage girls from happy homes DONT run away and become prostitutes! Please! For the sake of furthering the goal of ending sex trafficking, especially FORCED sex trafficking, dont do it! Girls every day from perfectly normal and healthy homes run away, get hooked on drugs or simply need a way to support themselves, and become prostitutes. Some wind up with pimps, and cant get out. I met a girl in this situation once, and she told me her parents were everyday Joe and Jane!
  • kuwel...
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    kuwelsdestiny

    June 14, 2012 at 3:52 PM
    And pimps are like abusive husbands. They walk up to a girl, whisper in her ear, expose her to the glamour of the "life" and then force them to participate.
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    Randi Xana Vengenz

    June 14, 2012 at 6:32 PM
    Uhh... Her father's a drug dealer. The 'perfectly normal home life' argument I keep seeing in comments is completely moot. Because... ya know... her father's a drug dealer.
  • Steph...
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    Stephanie Danielle Olivero

    June 16, 2012 at 5:46 AM

    Father being a drug dealer doesn't make human trafficking, especially of a minor, ok.  And if she disappeared from them, it is possible she didn't even run away.  Even if she did, if this were my daughter and the police refused to do anything about it, I would do what was necessary to protect her too.  Taking the law into your own hands wouldn't be the first thing I would think of though.


  • loves...
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    lovesouldoula

    June 16, 2012 at 11:26 PM
    Wow. Could you be more judgemental? Do you even have children? You'll be eating your words, unfortunately, soon enough. I certainly have not taught my two toddler sons to hit but sometimes they hit.period. That is a small scale example but you get my point. Murder is clearly not a solution, however those parents obviously cared enough about their daughter to risk their own lives, to save hers.
  • Bob
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    Bob

    June 17, 2012 at 11:35 AM
    Wow! The guy was convicted in 1995, about 21 years old. And you make him out to be what? Maybe you should read all the facts before writing your story.
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