Brides across the nation, take note: You might not be able to have your rowdy bachelorette party at a gay bar anymore. That is, if the owner of the twice-named "Best Gay Bar in the World," The Abbey in West Hollywood, starts a trend. David Cooley released a statement today noting that he's banning bachelorette parties from the bar until marriage equality is reached. (How very Brangelina of him!)
Cooley explained, "We love our straight girlfriends. But it's also a slap in the face to my customers and my life that we can't have that same celebration."
Hmm. As a bride-to-be myself, it's always been a curious thing to me why so many brides would choose to have their last hurrah at a gay bar in the first place. You'd think someone about to tie the knot might want to get in one last flirt or dance floor bump-and-grind session with a complete stranger ... who is actually attracted to them?
But the tradition of straight girls having their bachelorette party at a gay bar does make sense in a lot of ways. It's obviously one of the only places where we can get our dance and drink on, ogle half-naked men, and not have to contend with horny, aggressive straight guys -- who sometimes make for a fun time, but who can also make for a frightening one. In other words, gay bars are safe havens for straight gals.
But is that enough of a reason for gay men to keep letting straight ladies get their pre-wedding party on at their watering holes? Do spots like The Abbey "owe" it to women like me to offer a party spot that isn't sexually threatening? Of course not! I definitely get what Cooley is saying. I'm sure he only wanted to do something bold to stand up for marriage equality, and unfortunately, bachelorettes happen to be getting thrown under the bus as a result. It's not exactly the big "discriminatory" move some news outlets are making it out to be, as Stephen Colbert humorously pointed out. It's a political statement -- one that should make "straight girlfriends" think about doing what we can to stand up for our gay friends. Even if that means abstaining from celebrating our bachelorettes in their bars.
If not, no biggie. If that's really where a bride-to-be wants to spend her last big night as a single gal, I'm sure there are plenty of gay bars that won't be banning bachelorettes in order to make a political statement. Those that do? Eh, we should shrug, say more power to 'em, and sincerely hope it's a move that pays off. (Although, donating the proceeds to marriage equality activist groups seems to be an even better idea!)
Do you think gay bars have a right to ban bachelorette parties or is it the wrong way to make a political statement?
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