Bowl-a-Thon Raises Money for 14-Year-Old's Abortion

bowlingThe National Network of Abortion Funds (NNAF) recently held a Bowl-a-Thon and raised over $400,000 for abortions. On its website, it highlighted the story of 14-year-old Darcy, who was given a “second chance” when she terminated her child’s life pregnancy with money provided by the group’s “George Tiller Memorial Fund.”

Reminder: George Tiller was the late-term abortion provider that was murdered by nut-job anarchist Scott Roeder in 2009.

Darcy didn’t want to tell her mom, but lives in a state with parental consent laws, so she did. The abortion was going to cost more than the rent, so they turned to NNAF to cover the cost. Darcy says, “Getting my abortion means I’m going to get a second chance. And I want to make it count.”

My heart breaks for this girl. Abortion doesn’t erase bad decisions; it just rips a hole in your heart and tears at your soul. It’s the dirty little secret that no one wants to talk about: You have to grieve the loss of your child and your own hand in it while pretending to the world (and yourself) that you’re empowered.

Abortion ends a life. How does that make anything better?

Statistics say that Darcy won’t take advantage of this “second chance” but will likely be back at the clinic for another abortion. Half of all abortions are performed on women that have had at least one previously. She’s also four times more likely to use drugs than if she’d carried her baby to term.

A teen pregnancy is not easy to deal with, but it can provide an incredible opportunity to show love and support to a young girl, and give her the chance to discover that she is capable of great things. Real empowerment doesn’t come by trying to pretend that a life never existed; it comes from giving the priceless gift of a child to someone that has waited years for one.

A girl that gives her baby up for adoption has a reason to live, to apply herself to her studies and make something of her life. Handing over her child to someone else to raise will likely be the most difficult thing she ever does in her life, but she will always have the deep satisfaction of knowing she gave the greatest gift that can be given – life.

Young ladies like Darcy should be rallied around, encouraged, protected, and celebrated for taking a crappy situation and making it into a beautiful celebration of life. Abortion doesn’t fix anything. It’s not a reset button. Life doesn’t have a reset button.


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nonmember avatar linda

^Maybe not insane, but definitely narrow minded, mean, and insensitive. Take your pick.

Lori Jackson Treasure

The property rights of the mother in her own body trump the property rights of anyone else to occupy it, period. If you don't want to have an abortion, don't have one--but don't tell me what I can and cannot do with my body. You do not have that power over me, and thank goodness for that.

nonmember avatar amp it up

Well said, LJT. My hat is off to you.

curio... curious1145

First of all, Nickylove816, your argument was absurd. You talk about how much harder it is on your family member having given a baby up for adoption than it would have been if she had an abortion. You say it would be harder for you to imagine someone else raising your child. Who cares??????? The innocent baby living is the most important thing, not what would be easier on the mother,who in most cases had consentual sex. I'm glad your family member had the baby. According to you, it would be better if the baby was dead so that maybe its' mother would have less to deal with. Some people are sick.

And Lori Jackson Treasure, how could you be more selfish and cold? No baby asks to be created and be in someone's body. And once it is, you think the mother has a right to kill it because she doesn't want it in her body for nine months. No, the baby's life comes before a woman's selfish preferences about her body. What about the rights of the baby's body to thrive and grow,be born, and have a life?

nonmember avatar amp it up

curious, you say "no baby asks to be created and be in someone's body." Well duh, because it isn't a baby yet! All of this comes down to when you see this as a baby, and if you don't see it that way in the beginning, then Lori is right. No one has the right to tell me what to do with my body. I respect the fact that you believe it's a baby from conception, but I don't. So deal with it.

mama4... mama4Christ361

SO a 14 year old girl should be forced to have a child, which will impact her health, her development, and her mental stability, all so you can feel warm and fuzzy inside that your opinion has been validated, at the cost of this girl's decision and her choice?

Look, I won't get an abortion. I don't believe in it. However, notice I said 'I' won't I have no right to force my beliefs on anyone. Neither do you, and honestly, if I didn't think it would hurt more than help my message, you would be recieving a raging verbal assault at the moment! I am so mad at this article, I can barely see straight!!!!!

curio... curious1145

Mama4christ, why does this article get you so mad? Why can't Jenny give her opinion? That's what bloggers do. She's not forcing her opinions down any one's throat as you said. It's not like she was running down to an abortion clinic to put up barricades to keep everyone out. She simply stated her opinion. I don't see the problem.

And, she's not saying the 14-year old should have the baby so she "can feel warm and fuzzy inside that her opinion was validated." She doesn't think an innocent baby should be killed just to make things "easier" for the 14-year old. No where in the article does it say the girl was a victim of rape or incest. Most likely she had unprotected,consentual sex. So, I'm sorry. I'm not in favor of murdering an innocent child because of some risks to a careless teenager. Millions of girls have had safe pregnancies at her age. It's not ideal, no, but the girl should have thought of that beforehand. If you want to play, you have to pay. Unforunately though in this society, if you play and conceive a baby you don't want, you can just legally have it killed.

By the way, even legal abortions aren't always "safe" for the mother. So, the 14-year old could have medical complications anyway. And who's to say your way won't scar her for life emotionally? Just because you think her baby can just be discarded, she might later decide what she did was a mistake.

nonmember avatar Omina

I am in favor of abortion only when needed, but with a 14 yr old, it may be needed. She isnt even done developing yet. The risks are higher and no, america does not have a zero death rate for moms and babies, as much as you would like to think it does. I have a daughter and I would never force her to make the decision that I think is right. It would be her decision.

nonmember avatar Cait

I didn't even read half of this article as it nearly made me barf. Do you even know what this girls situation is?! She could have been raped! Her mother could have throw her out for telling her! An abortion could well be the only option here. Listen lady, 14 year olds should not be forced to carry babies- no one should. Don't judge someone if you don't know what they've been through.

Black... BlackRose4970

The article didn't say how she got pregnant. Did her mom even have "the talk" with her at all. While, personally, I wouldn't have an abortion, I appaude those people who gave the child a "second chance." BTW I'm guessing the writer of this article agrees with that church down in South America that excommunicated an 11 year old rape victim because she had an abortion.


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